Lady2163 Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I'm posting this so I don't hijack my own thread. I'm also not judging those who don't have the same rules. 1. I wouldn't have a relationship with a married man within 60 miles of where I live, no matter how convenient or great it could be. 2. Never with my best friend or employer's partner 3. Never in their bed. I prefer never to be in the house or on the property, but have done it in the past. 4. Never do a...tug and chug. Point blank if there is only time for him to get off and no attention to me, there's not enough time. 5. I won't take money from him 6. I don't wear perfume or makeup. No smells or foundation marks. I rarely wear deodorant when I'm around him. I shower a lot. 7. I thoroughly check his car or house before we part. 8. I pay close, close close attention what I bring into the car or truck. I empty my pockets before I enter either of those places. Cans and bottles are different in my state than his, I take my trash with me. If we eat fast food, I make sure I have the receipt and all the wrappers.
LilGirlandOW Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Wow that seems like alot of work on your part, remembering to 6, 7, and 8. We have had "quickies" in the begining of R, mostly during work breaks. I think they can be exciting, if we only have a small amount of time together he chooses that we not have a quickie, I questioned him on that once as I felt stupid for getting sexually dismissed and he said he doesnt ever want me to feel our R is about sex. So we dont have quick sex randez-vous which i would like from time to time. I wont; -Go to his house I need more self rules, lmao! When I started this post I figured I had at least a few to contribute, wow, thats an eye opener, lol
Author Lady2163 Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 When there's only a few minutes, he usually let's me take the lead. Quickies have happened. What I won't do is when we're both fully clothed, he unzips his pants, I blow, he zips up and leaves. This man isn't like that, but I've had others single and married who are. And as for 6,7 and 8, I'm more thorough than he is. He's kind of able to be a bit absent-minded in his personal life.
bentleychic Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I won't at his house, but he won't, either so that works out fine. I honestly don't have more rules b/c it's never been an issue. I have none in regards to other relationships b/c I never plan on being involved with a MM again. It's too hard. I jumped in to this one with both feet without thinking and fell in love before I could catch myself or think. If I didn't love him, I would have been long gone by now.
LilGirlandOW Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 We had a mutual rule set in the begining, which is monogamy (the irony), he made this rule, works out great for him. I have no need sexually or intimatly at all for anybody else as we have tons of intimate moments, but I would like a partner that is more available in the flesh at times.
LilGirlandOW Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 You cannot possibly be this naive. He's about as monogamous with you as he is with his wife. Absolutely! And I seem to eat it up like a mouse going after little scraps in the middle of the night/
MissBee Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I often think, since in my case he wasn't married, so lots of things didn't apply, that maybe the won't which covers a lot of it is, I wouldn't have ever gotten into the situation had he actually been a married man. I also probably wouldn't have allowed myself to do it if we lived in the same place or ran in the same circle, where it was an everyday thing to think about it terms of seeing him and so on, as the keeping it secret and sneaking around factor would have been more relevant.
LilGirlandOW Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Well, that certainly speaks volumes. You seem to thrive on loads and loads of drama. I can see how this affair feeds that need. I really dont thrive on drama, yes there has been dramatic incident I've shared, but most of the times 98% of the time we have the standard day to day R, we've never argued, I really dont argue or start drama with anybody in my life, I'm generally the "bigger person" when I come across conflict. I would say I seem to thrive on MM, there's my problem, drama doesnt really play a role in my life... My life's like this _______^_______^____________ Usually pretty boring and uneventful, with the odd "oh ****" moment.
Got it Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I'm posting this so I don't hijack my own thread. I'm also not judging those who don't have the same rules. 1. I wouldn't have a relationship with a married man within 60 miles of where I live, no matter how convenient or great it could be. 2. Never with my best friend or employer's partner 3. Never in their bed. I prefer never to be in the house or on the property, but have done it in the past. 4. Never do a...tug and chug. Point blank if there is only time for him to get off and no attention to me, there's not enough time. 5. I won't take money from him 6. I don't wear perfume or makeup. No smells or foundation marks. I rarely wear deodorant when I'm around him. I shower a lot. 7. I thoroughly check his car or house before we part. 8. I pay close, close close attention what I bring into the car or truck. I empty my pockets before I enter either of those places. Cans and bottles are different in my state than his, I take my trash with me. If we eat fast food, I make sure I have the receipt and all the wrappers. Umm, 6, 7, and 8 would have been absolute no go's for me. Good lord that is like James Bond. Nope, nope nope. I wouldn't be friends with the spouse and I wouldn't have done anything in their house, her car, etc. I wouldn't have an affair with a woman (I don't play for that team).
Author Lady2163 Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 How humiliating. You are basically making it as if you don't exist. Like you have to erase yourself after. Is this really making you happy? It makes me so sad for you. I don't want to hijack my own thread, so could you just trust me when I say there are components to this type of relationship that are conducive to my current lifestyle and occupation?
Pierre Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I'm posting this so I don't hijack my own thread. I'm also not judging those who don't have the same rules. 1. I wouldn't have a relationship with a married man within 60 miles of where I live, no matter how convenient or great it could be. 2. Never with my best friend or employer's partner 3. Never in their bed. I prefer never to be in the house or on the property, but have done it in the past. 4. Never do a...tug and chug. Point blank if there is only time for him to get off and no attention to me, there's not enough time. 5. I won't take money from him 6. I don't wear perfume or makeup. No smells or foundation marks. I rarely wear deodorant when I'm around him. I shower a lot. 7. I thoroughly check his car or house before we part. 8. I pay close, close close attention what I bring into the car or truck. I empty my pockets before I enter either of those places. Cans and bottles are different in my state than his, I take my trash with me. If we eat fast food, I make sure I have the receipt and all the wrappers. You are probably the best OW in the world! 1
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