marklarsson Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Im creating this thread to share how i have been coping over the last seven months and also to give some advice. Quick background on my situation. -i become depressed after losing my job, everything was going wrong fro me -couldn't find a new job, started to also have family issues that i had to cope with and it really felt like my life was at a stand still. -this had a tole on my relationship with my girlfriend at the time. -She broke up with me 7 months ago -i tried everything to get back with her, because at the time i really needed her support -she had been through something similar earlier in our relationship and i was there through it all with her. -however she did not want to get back with me and work on our relationship -she actually said 'I am not your WIFE, so there is no point on working on our relationship' these series of events really took its tole on me because i felt like i had lost everything and it was the lowest point of my life at the time. But i took it upon myself that i was going to fight through it and definitely become a stronger person. it was a test of character. Seven Months down the line -I now run my own clothing business and it is going very well. i was also able to find freelance work on the side as well so the income is good -I have moved out of my old place and i now live in the suburbs. it is such a big achievement for me because i come from a rough neighborhood and it had always been a dream of mine to move out of it one day and to be able to achieve that is amazing - i dont currently have a new girlfriend but i have not been looking really. just been working on myself and getting things sorted. What this whole break up has thought me -it showed me that i believed in us more than my ex did to be willing to work on the relationship. im not saying that i was the best boyfriend in the world but i did care about her. -it also showed me that with time i got over her. -i had to stop feeling sorry for myself and find solutions and how to get over my depression. i think that's the main thing to stop feeling sorry for yourself. 4
supaflyz Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Very good my friend. Congratulations on the new clothing line! That is a huge step. I could never imagine running my own clothing line. I just don't have the patience to run a business. Yeah time does heal all wounds. You are also right that you put more effort into the relationship than her. Exes might get offended that you tell them that it is a one way street where you put more thoughts and efforts into the relationship.
keepontruckin Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Congratulations! My bio would read fairly similar to yours... Eerily similar, actually... Thing was, she WAS my wife, and still is (on paper anyhow) The tough part is meeting new people... I'm too old for the club scene, and too young for the old folks home! 2
Author marklarsson Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Very good my friend. Congratulations on the new clothing line! That is a huge step. I could never imagine running my own clothing line. I just don't have the patience to run a business. Yeah time does heal all wounds. You are also right that you put more effort into the relationship than her. Exes might get offended that you tell them that it is a one way street where you put more thoughts and efforts into the relationship. Thank you. yes it was is hard work but i enjoy it. more so because its mine and i own it and i can choose the direct in which it goes in. its only small now but i hope it grows.
Author marklarsson Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Congratulations! My bio would read fairly similar to yours... Eerily similar, actually... Thing was, she WAS my wife, and still is (on paper anyhow) The tough part is meeting new people... I'm too old for the club scene, and too young for the old folks home! at the time i really did not understand when she said 'im not your wife' but i suppose it was her mentality at the time. but it made me think that she is not who i wont to marry if even as boyfriend and girlfriend she was not willing to work on our relationship how would i know she would if we were married. but yes i know what you mean about meeting new people. my heart is still not in the right place yet. im more about having fun now because i know that if i get into a relationship it wont work not at this stage anyway 1
The Situation Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Great to hear about the progress you've made! I like these sorts of threads, because when I'm feeling down, they bring hope. All the best with your business, I admire you for that!
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