Sasa123 Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I was wondering if any of you guys truly believe in reconciliation? Isit possible and does it happen?
TaraMaiden Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Yes, of course it does, but there are conditions: A Relationship is a 50/50 responsibility thing, and both partners are 100% responsible for the care, maintenance, polishing and upkeep of their part. There is no imbalance here, just as there cannot be only one member in a relationship of two. It's clean down the middle... (Please note: 'Responsibility' is different to 'blame'.....Blame can be massively disproportional.) You have to establish effective communication to discuss what exactly broke the relationship. You both have to own your parts, and you both have to take responsibility, and you both have to work damn hard to modify and repair and make good whatever went wrong. Remember: "Finding" the problem isn't the hard work. Fixing the problem, once you've found it - is when the hard work begins. And you have to both want to work equally hard. you have to both want this relationship to succeed the second time around, to the same level. If you're in it 100% of your 50% - but they're only in at 60%... you can't make up the 40% shortfall on their half. That's not co-operation on both your parts - that's desperation on yours alone. You need to do some straight talking and both accept responsibility for the previous failure. You have to establish that you're both 'in it to win it' to the same degree. because if you're not - then you need to stop. Right here.
daftpunk Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I was wondering if any of you guys truly believe in reconciliation? Isit possible and does it happen? Yes, it is possible. It's not even that rare. In fact I dare say that, more often than not, there is a chance of reconciliation. That doesn't mean that things will turn out any different the second time, however.
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