white Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I've never believed women change their mind about men. I've always believed they become interested, or not, in a man early - one or two dates, a couple days at work, whatever it might be - for some combination of physical attraction and personality, and that is that. Regardless of whether it was mutual or even appropriate, they either carry a torch or do not, after that time. The idea that they change their mind later seems preposterous. (For obvious reasons this is about ongoing friendships/acquaintance more than it is online dating, which is outside my experience and where you routinely write people off 100%, fast). Recently I've had multiple reasons to doubt this idea. Women have wound up dating or more, men in whom they had no interest, even for years. Even my own sister professes to have shacked up with her current boyfriend not because she was attracted, but because he was persistent and earnest in his affections, and now loves him. Ladies: am I right or wrong? Can you find yourself desiring a man after dismissing him? Perhaps you decided you judged too early. Perhaps their life changes and so do they. Perhaps you experience their attractive qualities after somehow getting to know them better at some point. Perhaps after the Nth failed relationship with a certain kind of man, you decide you want an alternative type - or you yourself change and warm to his lifestyle and personality. Perhaps it takes you a long, long time to open up, or his hope springing eternally is endearing. Or perhaps they slim up and dress better or win the lottery or get you both drunk at the right time or save you from lions. Can you change your mind on a man from no to yes?
bentleychic Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Yes. No...er...maybe... Probably not ALL women (hate to generalize), but most women that I know (including me!) change their minds often about a lot of things. I've not changed my mind about a man aside from my abusive exH (and the reason is obvious), but I'm sure some do and can say that I have some friends that are definitely good examples of that. Also, sometimes a woman may get to know the inside of a man and become attracted to it whereas initially she was not attracted to the external.
theloyalone1 Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 (edited) I believe so. I never dated this guy but we were good friends. He was on the heavy set side not my personal preference which is (Athletic body 6'0.) I'm 5'9 135lbs. My friend had a genuine demeanor with conversations and interest. WellIt eventually led us talking more. Sooner or later I started catching little feelings. I never thought but I suppose Cuz he never really had a gf and his innocence Attracted me to him. I did tell him That he wud be a good boyfriend. We never made a move And we still friends, to answer your post I believe woman Have a common type that they want to explore something Fresh and new. Edited July 28, 2013 by theloyalone1
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