IamLegend Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 So....Me and my Ex girlfriend have been talking eveyday for the past 3 weeks. Via phone calls and text messages. Our breakup was pretty bad and dramatic but i decided to be the bigger person and reach out to her as a friend. So far its been cool i guess. We laugh, joke, and enjoy communicating with eachother. She has been dating this guy for not a long time now. The relationship with him seems to be going sour as hell. They havent seen eachother in weeks. She says he doesnt like her anymore. I'm guessing the "rebound" phase is done. Now Shes constantly posting sad references to him on twitter and instagram. I guess she really did like him. O well forget that guy lol Anyways. She tells me noone loves her except me and basically she is always getting rejected from these guys. Meanwhile i'm basically her shoulder to cry on. I have no problem with that for the time being. I say that because i still very much care for this woman. See i had this issue with consistency which is why she ended things. The things i said rarely matched up with what i did. After she left me i had to take a big step back and evaluate myself. That was 7 months ago. Today i'm a better man than i was and i think she notices. Atleast i hope. Yesterday she called me late at night and sounded pretty sad. So i did my best to cheer her up. It worked fairly well i suppose. I texted her this quote by Steve Maraboli later when we got off the phone and she go all mushy and said i was very sweet and thanks for being there. She also said. "it really means alot...Everything youve done and said the last few weeks means alot " I have been trying to build her trust back. So i have really been trying to stay consistent and show her i've changed. From controlling my emotions, to being patient, to being more understanding, and being the cool guy i was when we first met. I've also been alot more encouraging with her dreams and goals. I have created a website for her modeling and buisness. Set up photoshoots(which is tommorow). I have been very involved with her basket ball games and just being there for her as much as i possibly can. I mean its not ALOT but i'm just trying to help her because noone else wants to and i think she appreciates that. Atleast i hope. I don't know if what i'm doing is opening her up to me or If i'm just playing myself or what but tommorrow will be the first time i see her in months and although i'm not nervous i want to know what i can do to make her feel more comfortable with the idea of actually hanging out again. btw if after all this effort i still dont get her back im ok with that because i honestly just think shes a good person and deserves to be happy. If thats not with me i'll still live but i would much rather i be in her future.. GIVE ME THE HARDCORE TRUTH. THE GOOD THE BAD AND THE UGLY NO BS JUST GIVE IT TO ME STRAIGHT AM I WASITING TIME TRYING TO BE HER FRIEND OR NOT
TMichaels Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 GIVE ME THE HARDCORE TRUTH. THE GOOD THE BAD AND THE UGLY NO BS JUST GIVE IT TO ME STRAIGHT AM I WASITING TIME TRYING TO BE HER FRIEND OR NOT Wasting your time in terms of what? If you want to be her friend, only you can decide if that's a waste of time. If you think "being her friend" is the road to "boyfriend/girlfriend-land" then I think you're mistaken. Based on what she's said and done, the best I think you can hope for in that department is FWB. Sorry. Best, TMichaels
Silver bell Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I think she still like you... Why dont you try another chance for both of you... Maybe this time it will work..
justwhoiam Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 i want to know what i can do to make her feel more comfortable with the idea of actually hanging out again. You're sort of on the right track for that. It's a thin line between ending up in her friend zone and being her bf again. GIVE ME THE HARDCORE TRUTH. THE GOOD THE BAD AND THE UGLY NO BS JUST GIVE IT TO ME STRAIGHT AM I WASITING TIME TRYING TO BE HER FRIEND OR NOT As you've already been told, being someone's friend shouldn't be a waste of time, if you value friendship. But when someone is in love, friendship is no substitute for love. And that's how you feel right now. Anyway: 1) it's good you're there for her, that's standing out and she's seeing it 2) not to end up in the friend zone, you need to add some sexual tension 3) if she fell for you once, that can happen again So, you're meeting her today in person? Don't make any explicit move, just build some sexual tension, make her laugh and make her feel well, so that you both have a good time. Is it just for a day or more? Because if it's more, other things might follow... Good luck.
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