maestrok Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 So i told the guy i have been seeing for the past two months that i need time to think about us. But i just cannot think at all. I am really busy with work now and am super tired to think about things which would make me all the more tired... I do think about him through out the day at the back of my mind and miss him momentarily time to time but thats pretty much it. Does this mean i should end the relationship for all? Do people feel this way too towards someone they really like? I dont know if i am feeling this way because i am not into him or because i am shutting down myself so i wont get hurt....
Star Gazer Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I thought you already decided to end things because you're sexually incompatible? Why are you afraid of letting go?
Author maestrok Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I thought you already decided to end things because you're sexually incompatible? Why are you afraid of letting go? I did want to end things only because i saw incompatibilities that would cause problems if i were to be in a long term relationship with him. It was not really sexual issues - he is great in bed. I was worried of timing in my other post because breaking up right after sex might signal such to him when that wasnt the case. Anyway, yeah the more i thought about it i wasnt sure if i really wanted to end it for all and people said things like you cant determine LTR potentials when youve only dated someone for two months... So we are just taking time off instead. And idk what .....
Author maestrok Posted July 29, 2013 Author Posted July 29, 2013 If i were to end this for all, should i just text him that? Or wait for him to inquire about whether i am done with thinking? And should i give him the reason for the ultimate decision? What do i say ....?
clia Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 You should call him as soon as possible and tell him it's over. It's not fair to him for you to keep drawing this out when you don't want to keep seeing him. Set him free so he can finds someone else. Texting him would be lame. I don't think you need to give him a big, long, drawn out explanation after two months of dating either. In fact, that can work against you, because whatever you say is the problem, he will try to convince you that he can change or that you are wrong for feeling that way, which may reel you back in. The shorter you keep the call, the better. You can just say that you're sorry, but the relationship just isn't working for you, and you feel the two of you should go your separate ways. That's the truth, isn't it? 1
Author maestrok Posted July 29, 2013 Author Posted July 29, 2013 You should call him as soon as possible and tell him it's over. It's not fair to him for you to keep drawing this out when you don't want to keep seeing him. Set him free so he can finds someone else. Texting him would be lame. I don't think you need to give him a big, long, drawn out explanation after two months of dating either. In fact, that can work against you, because whatever you say is the problem, he will try to convince you that he can change or that you are wrong for feeling that way, which may reel you back in. The shorter you keep the call, the better. You can just say that you're sorry, but the relationship just isn't working for you, and you feel the two of you should go your separate ways. That's the truth, isn't it? Thats the thing about phone calls (or talking in person) because, like you said, he will try to talk me out and i just wouldnt know what to say and i cant act cold because i am breaking up with him despite my current feelings about him. Idk why but i am no longer certain if breakup is the best solution for both/either of us.
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