Robert Z Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I say men. Otherwise women would romance men, right? But nooooo! We men are expected to stand below your window and serenade you by moonlight! I get so tired of that!!! I think we often have very different ideas about what constitutes romance. I knew a woman who got all hot when she realized that her new boyfriend [living together] had build shelves in the garage. I might have gone for something more like a flowers, a nice candlelight dinner with romantic music, and an intimate evening filled with passion. But shelves in the garage did it for her. I understand that he was thinking of her and she appreciated that. But there was also a certainly practical utility in this that she expressed. It made me consider that passion isn't the only thing that can excite a woman. Sometimes it can be far more practical.
LittleTiger Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 My answer is the same as for all the other 'generalisation' threads. Romance is an individual thing, not something that's gender specific. Since you mention a woman getting hot for the practical side of a man - that's me! The hottest thing on two legs is my guy in a pair of jeans and a tool belt - and nothing else! I remember swooning over him once just for creatively concocting a clothes line in a hotel room one night after we'd been on a tramping/camping holiday for three days. I expressed my concern about how many clothes there were and how little room to hang things, then I went downstairs to collect the second load of washing from the laundry room. When I got back to our room 15 minutes later, all the wet clothes were hanging up and fast drying in the sunshine. I wanted to devour him on the spot! He's always doing stuff like that so I guess resourcefulness turns me on. I don't think I would call that romantic though - romantic is walking along a moonlit beach at night, holding hands and eating ice cream, or playing together in the surf or a hot tub (naked if there's nobody around), or snuggling up on top of a mountain eating sandwiches and chocolate and watching the sun go down. 1
sweetkiwi Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I romance the fhucking sh.it out of all my men . 4
therhythm Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I say men. Otherwise women would romance men, right? But nooooo! We men are expected to stand below your window and serenade you by moonlight! I get so tired of that!!! I think we often have very different ideas about what constitutes romance. I knew a woman who got all hot when she realized that her new boyfriend [living together] had build shelves in the garage. I might have gone for something more like a flowers, a nice candlelight dinner with romantic music, and an intimate evening filled with passion. But shelves in the garage did it for her. I understand that he was thinking of her and she appreciated that. But there was also a certainly practical utility in this that she expressed. It made me consider that passion isn't the only thing that can excite a woman. Sometimes it can be far more practical. Ohh no... you didn't!!! Sorry to tell you man but women are as romantic as we are... just in different ways. 2
Author Robert Z Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I romance the fhucking sh.it out of all my men . LOL!!! 2
Author Robert Z Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Ohh no... you didn't!!! Sorry to tell you man but women are as romantic as we are... just in different ways. Well...? Do you work for the CIA or are you going to share your secrets? 1
sweetkiwi Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I think I've shared things I do for members of the opposite sex which I consider to be romantic, but I'll share them again just for you boo . In the beginning of a relationship I enjoy planning dates, cooking nice meals, giving massages, blowjobs, buying things () like dinner, drinks, gifts. And that continues throughout the relationship. I am a giver, a nurturer, and there is nothing more rewarding than making a good person smile or laugh or feel loved. 2
therhythm Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Well...? Do you work for the CIA or are you going to share your secrets? Women are romantic in little details, they remember every important date, they prepare themselves for a date hours before the date (they want to be beautiful for us), a massage after work, breakfast in the bed, running us a nice bath and offering us to bath us , buying nice and sexy lingerie for us, sending sexy texts during the day to build up expectations for the night , they don't do last minute presents, ... I can make a very big list here man! 3
therhythm Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 (edited) I think I've shared things I do for members of the opposite sex which I consider to be romantic, but I'll share them again just for you boo . In the beginning of a relationship I enjoy ... giving blowjobs, . Sorry what else did you say? I totally missed it Edited July 27, 2013 by therhythm 3
sweetkiwi Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Sorry what else did you say? I totally missed it For the seven months I was with my Italian ex while he was at work I would clean his house and make lunch. He could just come home, eat, then get to lay back and enjoy me "romancing" him with my mouth . 2
Author Robert Z Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I am in love... would you marry me? Sorry mister romance, she already said she'd marry me. We share a very deep connection - star trek. 2
therhythm Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Sorry mister romance, she already said she'd marry me. We share a very deep connection - star trek. Damn Klingons... how can I compete with such a connection... I guess I should accept I have lost this battle... And the worse of it the bj's after work...:( 2
sweetkiwi Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Now now gentlemen, you know how we settle arguments in LS land. Tapioca pudding wrestling!!!! :love:bunny: 3
Keenly Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Its a dumb question because the answers feelings and responses varies so wildly. Every girlfriend I have ever had has brought me or surprised me with food. I love food, therefore I find showing up at my house at 9 pm uninvited with a bag of taco bell to be pretty damn romantic. I'm sure others wouldn't share my feelings. 3
therhythm Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Now now gentlemen, you know how we settle arguments in LS land. Tapioca pudding wrestling!!!! :love:bunny: But I prefer to fight with you in the pudding than with Robert :( 2
Author Robert Z Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 But I prefer to fight with you in the pudding than with Robert :( I agree. Sorry Sweetkiwi, you'll just have to wrestle us one at a time. 2
Author Robert Z Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Its a dumb question because the answers feelings and responses varies so wildly. The title was a bit of a joke referencing other such titles, with the context of the original post making clear that the idea of romance varies. 1
Author Robert Z Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 I find I'm more the romances..I like doing little things.. I leave love notes, put candles on, I wear lingerie to bed every night even if I'm alone..maybe I like to romance myself? I buy my man single roses and make special meals. Ill show up at lunch with your favorite tarts from the bakery all wrapped in cute boxes and bring a blanket to snuggle you on. I text one love quote a day some cute, some funny some romantic but just to let you know I'm thinking of you. Ill also do your laundry at 2am if there was a specific item you needed for the next day that hadnt been washed, and give you the remote..I think those are the most appreciated gestures. Yes, if someone had ever done things like that for me, they would have been greatly appreciated. 2
sweetkiwi Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I agree. Sorry Sweetkiwi, you'll just have to wrestle us one at a time. Just trying to get you boys in the same tub of gooey goodness . Who gets to wrestle me first? I mean if you don't want sloppy seconds... There's got to be a solution....OH!! I know!! You can wrestle to see who goes first!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny: 2
sweetkiwi Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Yes, if someone had ever done things like that for me, they would have been greatly appreciated. Ever!!? You mean no one has ever done those things for you??? Dang. And here I am thinking these things were normal or common. Guess I've been spoiling my men rotten. I hope you get a partner who would paint the stars in the sky, just to see your eyes sparkle with joy. 2
Author Robert Z Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Ever!!? You mean no one has ever done those things for you??? Dang. And here I am thinking these things were normal or common. Guess I've been spoiling my men rotten. I hope you get a partner who would paint the stars in the sky, just to see your eyes sparkle with joy. Well, women I dated did treat me better before I got married. But when I read what many women here like you write, honestly, I can't even imagine. One of the joys of growing up during the women's rights era, common courtesy and consideration were considered demeaning. Eventually I realized that my ex considered pretty much anything except what she wanted to do, demeaning. 1
sweetkiwi Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Well, women I dated did treat me better before I got married. But when I read what many women here like you write, honestly, I can't even imagine. One of the joys of growing up during the women's rights era, common courtesy and consideration were considered demeaning. Eventually I realized that my ex considered pretty much anything except what she wanted to do, demeaning. I do things I don't necessarily want to do for my partner's sake. As do they. It's romantic to put another person's desires above your own. Obviously I wouldn't compromise on major issues. But surprisingly many times when I forced myself to do things I didn't necessarily want to do, I had fun and even discovered that I LIKED those things too!! And yes, the romance has stopped on my end a couple times before the end of the relationship. Because they were withholding sex from me. I became angry, bitter, and insecure. (And I wonder why people think I am really a man !! 1
Author Robert Z Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 I think it also depends alot on the person. Some people just can't be "cheesy" or sexual, or romantic..etc. I personally..love to be full of cheese. Honestly though, if you don't get some appreciation for the effort and thought you put into the other person, you start to not care and then it dwindles to nothing. My x appreciated non of it, it just became expected. When we were done with the relationship after 17 years all of a sudden he tried to acquire some cheese..it just smelled mouldy to me though. That is pretty much what happened to me. Every Friday evening I made her gourmet meals, made her a bath with bubbles three feet high, broke out the candles and music, and tried to make it her special evening each week. I always gave her awesome massages, did anything she asked if she needed something, and this was while attending a university full time working on my physics degree, and working part time running a small air conditioning repair business and tutoring other students. I typically put in 100 hours a week between school and work. But after about five years I began to realize that this had become a one-way street. In fact she never really did much of anything for ME, and when she did even a minimum of effort was held over my head as if she had crossed the Nile on the backs of crocodiles. In fact she was lazy and selfish. So slowly but surely I lost my motivation. By about the twenty year mark, I knew that she never really cared about anyone but herself. Yes, I was that stupid.
Author Robert Z Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Coffee does it for me too!!! :love: I know it drives some people nuts when I say things like this, but you can only imagine my surprise when I found that the very first time I saw an escort, she treated me better than my wife ever had. Consider the irony of a total stranger being more caring than the woman who allegedly loved me! Last Christmas, my sugar baby bought this nasty Santa's elf nighty. Then she put together an entire dance routine that he did to the song, Santa's Baby. It was sooooo cute, sexy, thoughtful, enticing, personal... in fact it was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me. She really put herself out there and it touched me deeply. She absolutely melted my heart. 2
carhill Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I can't speak in general, as I have no idea how women are with men/men with women other than my own experiences, but looking down right now, I'd have to opine that the kind and generous considerations of the wives of some of my male friends, if received from a spouse or romantic partner, would indeed be considered 'more romantic' by myself. Unfortunately, I've yet to experience that dynamic. The net result of those experiences is that my poetry, along with my rose garden and orchard and creativity in crafts, as examples, have languished, so I would opine I'm not very 'romantic' anymore. I gave it a solid 30+ years of college try; time to move on to other things. I hope the men and women who believe in romance and romantic acts continue to enjoy the benefits of such sharing of love. Good luck to them.
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