Next step?

[theonlyjuan]

It's approaching 2 months since my breakup. I am exercising a lot and eating well, I have a Personal Trainer course to get in shape for next year.

 

I still think of her but not as often as I did. Starting to feel a bit lonely now, especially on days off work.

 

My friend is my ex's brother so I haven't really been seeing my friends much. Last time didn't end well. I got too drunk and he mentioned her, I ended up getting sad.

 

I have been thinking about meeting some new girls. My trouble is I fall for girls too easily, especially after a breakup. I don't want to repeat the same habits and mistakes. I'm not looking for sex, I just would like someone to hang out with and do stuff with.

 

Really it will be like having a good girl 'friend'. I don't want to convince myself that I really like them and end up falling for them. I don't want to go through all this again.

 

I don't know if this is too early to be trying it. Maybe I should spend a bit more time by myself but having a new girl in my life will help and be good.

[ToyStoryThree]

Do you feel ready to try it? Or is it just that you think you should be trying it?

[aloneinaz]

Thank God for dating sites. You don't have to go to bars, you can select a girl/girls from the comfort of your couch. At two months, you should start casually dating again. I had my first date at 3 weeks post break up. I've been seeing a girl now for almost a month after dating several others the first few weeks.

 

I've posted MANY times that I think it's helpful to our self esteem, confidence and helps us realize there's too many women in this world to be stuck on the one who rejected us.

 

There's nothing wrong with going out on some dates. Maybe you find a good connection and can hang out with her w/out it getting too serious too quickly.

Go have fun, enjoy life and the company of the opposite sex. Don't be one of the "I've been sitting home crying about my ex for 6 months folks!"

[theonlyjuan]

I ain't going on dating sites. My area isn't big enough and I ain't travelling far to meet someone.

 

There's a cool pub that me and my mates have been going to for years. It's like a rock bar, helps because that's my type of girl.

 

 

They do a cheap drink night and it gets busy.

 

 

Weird, when I was in a relationship i had quite a few girls from there like me. Now I'm single I have a fear that I won't find anyone.

 

 

I'm getting bored of my own company and would like to meet someone to take my mind of it all. More so a friend than girlfriend. Unless I meet someone and I feel it straight away.

 

 

I won't make the mistake of convincing myself I really like someone, just for the sake of not being lonely. Ill only end up back here a few months down the line.