Sallygirl Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 So, as some of you know I work with my ex. I had to see him yesterday for a work related issue. He works in IT and set up a laptop for me. He had to show me how to get to some of the terminal servers, and when he booted up the computer, I saw that he had put a picture of my favorite baseball player as the background picture. As much as I tried not to I laughed out loud and said that was good. It did bother me a little, because I think he was doing it to be cute and also because now when I log on, I'll think of him. At least that is what he thinks. I've already changed the picture. The rest of the time he tried to make conversation about personal issues (ex I'm moving soon) but I kept answers brief. (Earlier in the week be had emailed sbout the work thing but also asked personal questions. I ignored them and only answered the work questions. his emails then went back to only addressing work questions in a professional way). He asked how my day was and I said good, but didn't ask how his was. As a result, we had some awkward silences happening. I was ok with it. When he was done, I said thanks and walked away. About an hour later, I get the following email: It was nice to see you. You look really good. I hope work gets better and they can get rid of some of your work load. I waited until right before I left and replied: Thanks, I'm sure it will. Have a good weekend. If I didn't work with him, I wouldn't have replied at all, but I do, so I am trying to keep things professional, since I have to deal with him. I have gone NC with him (blocked everything, etc.) except when we have to communicate at work, and the three times he's stopped by my work area. The NC as been happening now for about 6 weeks. I cannot figure out his intentions. And as much as I don't want it to, this has completely messed with my head. This was only a breadcrumb, right???
TaraMaiden Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Yes, you're absolutely right, and you are going about this in exactly the right way. Remaining professional, keeping discussions short and business-related.... perfect. HE'S the one being an idiot. Keep on keepin' on, gurl!!
Author Sallygirl Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Yes, you're absolutely right, and you are going about this in exactly the right way. Remaining professional, keeping discussions short and business-related.... perfect. HE'S the one being an idiot. Keep on keepin' on, gurl!! Thanks TM. I'm really trying. This has just really set me back. Today's been rough.
Jenny1234 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 One day...one hour.. One min aha time! Stay strong
Author Sallygirl Posted July 29, 2013 Author Posted July 29, 2013 Thanks Jenny. I'm really trying. This weekend was so rough for me. On weekends where he doesn't have his kids, I just imagine that he is spending his entire weekend with her. I know I shouldn't care and that I shouldn't think about it, and I promise I'm trying not too, but I just can't stop sometimes. It breaks my heart. Why is it that one email from him puts me in a complete tailspin and causes my emotions to go out of control and do a complete 180???
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