alexa137 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 ok my bf and i have been together 6 mths, i think hes the one and is everything to me, good man etc..get along great, until i find out that he is still active on numerous dating sites, which to me is very wrong in a relationship especially when youare serious and in love. Ifound this out because he put his cell phone sd card on my laptop to transfer files and of course the majority of the photos and files are still on my laptop. I also found over 100 photos of women(some naked) and yes this bothers me alot! I do have major trust issues with men because all of them cheated on me in the past. Now my bf tells me he loves me and is in love with me(hes the first) , but in my opinion i think your profile should be removed from dating sites, and he is actually logging on and updating photos etc, I meet him in January and i was on about 6 dating sites by feb i removed all mine. I mean why still look for a date if you are already dating someone? and is supposedly serious about that person? im 99.9 percent(never 100 with a man) that he is not cheating. hes with me 90% of his free time and the other times hes sleeping or working and we have contact somehow all the time. now that everything was going to so good for 6 mths straight this comes up and i have the feelings and doubts I have with all the pervious men i dated, am i overeacting??
Brunettie Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Say you saw some of the files from when he transferred and you noticed he's still on the dating sites. Ask him why. You need to discuss this with him.
Author alexa137 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I did and he removed them, but im still mad and disappointed, I thought i had all his attention but men smh! he loves and says if he didnt want to be with me he would tell me i just think its disrespectful and now i feel our relationship wont be the same i dont really want to see him today and i dont know if it can be fixed or not i just feelupset etc
mesmerized Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 He was looking for a better deal. I'm sorry hon but you shouldn't accept any excuse regarding this and move on. Just him being out there on several dating sites searching for a new girl is cheating IMO. 5
Art_Critic Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 He was looking for a better deal. I'm sorry hon but you shouldn't accept any excuse regarding this and move on. Just him being out there on several dating sites searching for a new girl is cheating IMO. After dating 6 months and being in a committed relationship I totally agree... 1
theloyalone1 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 (edited) Alexa, I agree with the others and say to move on. The sad part is social media and dating sites have Woman all over. Its like for men, a kid in a candy Store they sometimes get addicted to the naked Photos or the "likes" they get on there pic or Just knowing "they still got it" stupidity smh the tricky part is That's how you two met but I'm with you on deleting The sites if u found someone. To me its a sign to see What's still out there. I remember a guy friend who was dating a girl And he had an addiction for going on instagram And looking at booty shots of woman. I asked Why when u have a beautiful girl at home? I don't know what it really is, but at the same Time some of these woman on these dating sites I tell You have no class. Just provocative Written all over them. Even the guys too I can't even front. I remember going being on A dating site and I made a promise if a guy with His shirt off in his pic messaged me, I will not Reply. Why wud I want someone looking at My man goodies? Lol I'm rambling but yeah Look at this as a SIGN. Think with logic and Not emotions and see if he's worth the "worry" And "anxiety" u face.. Hang in there Edited July 27, 2013 by theloyalone1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 He's keeping his options open. There's simply no other reason he's active on dating sites now. Sorry, OP. Your boyfriend is up to no good and obviously doesn't feel the same way about your relationship as you. Don't accept this crap from him, or try to justify or excuse his behaviour. 4
soccerrprp Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I certifiably agree with all others...he's fishing for something better (in his mind)....be very wary... 2
ExpatInItaly Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I did and he removed them, but im still mad and disappointed, I thought i had all his attention but men smh! he loves and says if he didnt want to be with me he would tell me i just think its disrespectful and now i feel our relationship wont be the same i dont really want to see him today and i dont know if it can be fixed or not i just feelupset etc And what was his explanation as to why he's still active on these sites?
sdraw108 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 The only thing which will be different from now on is that he will be more careful to not get caught. You need to do the hard thing and move on. I've never once logged onto a dating site when I've been in a relationship - I agree with the others who said it's the same as cheating.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 If I was in your position, I would never tolerate the naked pictures or the intent to cheat by posting on a dating site. If your boyfriend loves you ( which at 6 months, he probably should), he would not be looking for options nor look at naked pictures. I don't believe that whole stereotypical saying that men are just sex-driven creatures who must look at naked women and porn, but there are men who are content with their significant other that they don't need to look at other women. Example, my boyfriend loves me and going a year into our relationship, he has neither looked at another girl nor stored pictures of naked women anywhere. If he had wanted a picture he simply asked me and I would happily take one for him. Obviously, knowing what he's capable of, you now know he is a man of low character and possibly capable of cheating if given the chance.
Mascara Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 he has neither looked at another girl. What, not at all? Even passing a pretty girl in the street?
veggirl Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 girl. he was receiving naked pictures of other girls while dating you!!! wtf! where is your self-respect?! tell him to get lost! better at 6 months than 6 yrs, etc! get your head out of your booty, he is trolling for other women and accepting their advances. and like someone asked upthread, what was his excuse for still being active on dating sites? guaranteed he deleted A profile and then put up B profile.... leave this douche, ffs you think this is how "the one" acts?!!! you are way more into him than he is into you.
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