simplycurious Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Hi everyone, I recently joined this forum because I could not figure out what is going on with this girl I am currently seeing, here is a little background info: I briefly met her at a house party, and proceeded to find her on fb in which we started talking back and forth for a few weeks, eventually I asked for her number and set up a first date, before I get too far, our online conversations at first were good, decent replies in a timely manner, eventually the reply times took longer, I figured her interest level was dipping So our first date was coming up and she flaked within hours of it, said something came up. Disappointed, but I figured, w/e, she has to reschedule now, in which she did and we finally went out the subsequent week. We have gone on a 2nd date already, in which things went very well, she was flirty, interested, making eye contact etc, and we both decided we should go out again... Now, here's where it gets confusing, Whenever I text/message her, the replies take forever, like something a day or two, and I know she has read it as her read receipt is on (for fb). Is she really busy 24/7 and has no time to reply to me? Half of my friends say she is not interested, the other half say she is playing hard to get. I'm so confused as the in person conversations are great, while the online ones suck... Any advice, comments or suggestions are greatly appreciated Thanks
SoulJazzBlues Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Some folk are just busy. Some folk hate being chained to social media and phones. Who knows what her reason is? What we do know is that at two dates its really early to determine anything really. It does sound like her interest levels are low and you may be in danger of entering the friendship corner. Sometimes we think dates went great and there is a connection but the other party doesn't think so. Also, is eye contact that rare that it a person simply looking you in the eye is considered a sign of interest? Who are these people not looking at people's faces when talking?!
Mascara Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I end up having this conversation with everyone I date. I'm not chained to my phone. I can see and read a message, and I think I'll reply later when I can have a proper conversation. Because its not just "2 minutes to reply", its making the time for a whole conversation. She replies, you reply, then she has to reply again... it can go on for an hour. That said, anything more than "by the end of the day or 12 hours" generally, in my experience, indicates not disinterest necessarily. But definite low priority.
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