unluckycat Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I was with my recent ex for nearly 10 years. I spent that time pretty much only with him. Last month we finally called it quits, mutually. He was never in love with me, I told him that I was no longer in love with him. We just had alot of issues in those years, alot of fights and misunderstandings. But there's still a bond between us, especially after spending that much time together, he's like family to me. We both separated to pursue things we wanted to do in life. I was recently living with him and his parents up until 5 days ago when I moved back with my parents. I'm in the process of getting used to it and it's been making me depressed. I haven't lived with my parents in those 10 years, nor have I had much contact with them. And I'm 30 yrs old. So I'm taking it pretty hard. My ex and I still text eachother and occassionally talk online. But we still fight. My ex is ambitious and he is always trying to have very serious conversations with me. We were actually going to see a movie together, but last night I told him we probably shouldn't, we should wait a month or two when I feel more settled here, and I'm not so freshly wounded. But the next day he joked about going out anyways, and I told him it made me upset because he was joking about something we already made a decision on, and he blamed me for making a big deal about it. Just now, and the reason I am now typing this, he asked me "Hey where do you see me in 5 years?" And I said I didn't know, probably moved out, with a job, with someone else. I wasn't sure. He laughed and said "Well I'm asking you to see how much you know about me?" And I got upset. He does this all the time. Then he said "I wanted to see if you knew much about me, otherwise why would you want to hang out with me? What would be the point if you don't know much about me." Uhm, because we're friends? Because we hang out and have fun together?! My ex always "quizzes" me on how much I know about him. And I freeze up, because I will say things, but they're never good enough for him. I'm so frustrated, and depressed, and I can never get him to understand what I'm going through. And when I tell him this, he thinks I'm not listening to him. And says he already understands what I'm going through. And I don't think that he really does. I am at my wits end. I don't want to cut him out of my life. But he makes it so damn difficult. And he's really the only friend I have. I'm not close with my family anymore, I've been so happy to talk to him every day. But then he says and does things that make me upset and blames me for being upset at it. Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know...
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