ryandxtreme Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Well long story short my ex-gf who dumped me 2.5 years back is trying to contact me,I'm 24, she's 22... She had tried to contact me 3-4 times earlier this year as well.. The first time we talked for a few days and then I made it pretty clear, "we can't be friends, so stop contacting me unless you are in deep **** and think that you might need some help from me"... It was just politeness from my side to talk about the help thing, but she I guess held onto that and contacted me 2 months later asking if I could get her an internship in my city.. I got her some and then she said she couldn't come... She again contacts me a month later ,this time asking me if I could lend her $30,000 since she was in a ****ty situation and needed to pay-off some some debt she had while she was shooting for an amateur level movie(BY the way she isn't the type who would want to take money from anyone...She is extremely egoistical) .. I called her up 2 hours later offering her $12,000..But before I say anything she said the matter was solved.. I wished her luck and hung up A week back I suddenly see her name in notifications in FB-she had sent me an invitation to join a Food-festival page of sorts(I had unfriended her post-breakup..She had sent me requests twice,I chose not to respond).. I went to the page,liked it then changed the settings for that page to "Stop receiving notifications for this page(or whatever the phrase was)" .. Within a minute she messages me in FB ,"That's my event...I am part of an Event Management startup" I said, "Okay..Nice thing" Then she asks me, "How have you been?.. Do you have a gf?" I don't ,I said so.. We strike a conversation where she says she was single and wouldn't find a BF like me ever again... Next day she pings me again..Within a minute sends me links of the songs "I will be right here waiting for you" and "Thousand years" and says " Notice the lyrics".. I ask her if she "relates" to the songs..she dodged it then she says she intentionally avoided my question..I said you needn't.. She says, " Well yes somewhat..though I don't want to"...She suddenly changes her FB profile pic to a 5 year old one holding a teddy-bear I had gifted her in school..She asks me if I remember this..I said," Obviously I do"... then I too cut down my defenses and opened up a bit,yeah and sent youtube link of a song as well Next day(yesterday) I ping her myself..and she acts a bit distant with just yes/no/okay type responses... I got the vibe and stopped.. Any insights people ?? What is she upto ?? It's not that I am still hung up on her or something but this is making me curious and I would love to understand what's on her mind.. By the way,did I mention she had got into 2 relationships post our breakup and is single right now ??
supaflyz Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Don't ever lend her the money! Are you crazy! She sound like she is using u.
NiceFails Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 She's hooking you once more. I don't think you should even talk again nor have defences either. It would be natural to just forget her.
Author ryandxtreme Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Does she have any intention of proposing me ?
TaraMaiden Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Who knows?? WHO CARES - !??! Excuse me for saying so, but you're behaving like a damn fool, playing into the drama by licking up the breadcrumbs. She's sooo messing with you, and you're letting her! What she does, thinks or says bears no relevance to anything. You need to stop engaging with her, establish firm, no-nonsense total NC - and stick to it like a barnacle to a ship! You need to block her completely, all ways round, otherwise this mindphukk is going to go on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on....
Author ryandxtreme Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 (edited) @ Taramaiden : When you speak you have this great way to drill sense into people... Thanks ! When she dumped me out of the blues for another guy it was obviously shattering... I hated the gut-wrenching pain but worked on myself,tried to improve myself each day.. It has been rewarding ,it has been a great learning curve as well,learning from the scratch how to survive alone and that you don't NEED anybody..You might just want them However something that I wanted all through was for her to come back and beg me to take her back... I know it's stupid to seek validation but I get this feeling that this shall complete a cycle of events.. My young heart would get healed of a very old wound... She had said lots of pretty nasty stuff which were completely false..I mean it was still okay that u wanted to phhuck somebody but why torture someone who was always there by insulting him day in and day out and drawing comparison with your present lover ?.. That too when I had stopped contacting/begging her At that time,I didn't give it back to her-none at all, inspite of everything she did.. I waited for the day when she would have to come back to me and apologize/ask me to take her back.. I know it's stupid to seek validation from her of all people but does she regret now that she is doing all these things ? An answer from you would give me some sort of a validation as well.. I wanted to get this out in writing.. Already feeling a little light Edited July 27, 2013 by ryandxtreme
TaraMaiden Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 It's too far down the line to knoiw what her motives are. And frankly, they don't matter. She's toying with you. Why? Probably because she got dumped, needs consoling, and she knows you're a sucker for a sweet line. She's saying what you want to hear, in order to get inside your head..... on her terms, not yours. Then she asks me, "How have you been?.. Do you have a gf?" she says she was single and wouldn't find a BF like me ever again... Next day she.. . sends me links of the songs "I will be right here waiting for you" and "Thousand years" and says " Notice the lyrics".. I ask her if she "relates" to the songs..she dodged it then she says she intentionally avoided my question..I said you needn't.. She says, " Well yes somewhat..though I don't want to"... She suddenly changes her FB profile pic to a 5 year old one holding a teddy-bear I had gifted her in school..She asks me if I remember this..I said," Obviously I do"... Next day(yesterday) I ping her myself..and she acts a bit distant with just yes/no/okay type responses... I got the vibe and stopped.. She's yanking your chain, and you've been suckered in, hook line and sinker. She's playing you and you're going to end up a victim. Again. If you keep responding!
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