theloyalone1 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I need advice people I was with him off and on since 2008. We both was afraid of committment So we never really made it "official" We had our ups and downs. Anyway, In 2011, he asked me to commit to him For a valentine's day lunch and really give "Us" a shot. So I decided to go all in. Well he is a musician and has late night Studio sessions. The day before our lunch I called him to get the location of place No answer. The next day he calls unapologetic And non-chalent. I was mad and asked him to Never call me again. I was over him and "us" So 6 months later, he emails me with message "Hey everyone just checking in" So a week goes by and I finally replied to him Asking if we can talk. I wanted to know WHY He personally emailed me and said "hey everybody" *coward* I didn't see any other emails fwd. So once again His answer was "non chalent" I told him to never Call, email. Text, anything. Lose my number for GOOD. So two years later, I will confess I was "twatching" his twitter Page and say subliminal messages saying first "Where are you" and "its been years I'm a change man" Then he tries to follow me on twitter. I didn't accept it My heart can't take another dissappointment. I'm almost 30 and maturing. Not the 20 something I was when we met. I didn't want to open that wound again. Now I'm thinking about if I did the right thing I do want to hear him out but don't want any Connection with him. He's one of those "love u too much;can't be friends" Its hard to be his friendly only... So what advice can u people give? Thanks in advance
Leegh Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I think you may want to stop thinking about him, but can't since you never got any real closure. Perhaps you could meet with him, or at least have a lengthy telephone conversation with him, and then decide what your next step will be. Perhaps you are undecided if the relationship is totally over, and that is OK. It is really, really hard to fully get over someone when you do not have full closure and wonder if there were misunderstandings. I'd say either get closure or resume the relationship.
Author theloyalone1 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 (edited) Thanks for your advice. I was tthinking The same thing just wanting "closure" I think there's some misunderstanding as well But at this point, I really would like To see what's out there. I'm not going To lie, I miss him but I'm not The same person he fell in love with before. We've had this pattern/routine thing going On for years how we wud check up on eachother every 6-8 Months or so ..and I think I'm just over The pattern. Possibly he he wants to "communicate" his feelings to me maybe now that he reached out . I don't know if you saw "Sex and the city" tv show. I'm carrie and he is my BIGs. Lol And who knows we may bump into one Another. We practically live down the street. Lol Its one of those my heart thinks about him And my mind is like "girl let that go" lol Time will tell.. Edited July 27, 2013 by theloyalone1
Leegh Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Yes, I see what you mean, as when you and he email every 6 or 8 months, it's hard for you to keep up the "in love" feeling for that person. I guess the brain chemicals cannot keep up a constant high without seeing the person, as I truly think romantic love is an addiction. I have thought about past boyfriends a lot, but at the same time, have no real desire to see them again. I guess you don't have to make a decision immediately about him, but think about things and then make a decision.
Mascara Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Can you clarify why you broke up? The day you were supposed to have lunch, did he call after you were supposed to meet?
Author theloyalone1 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Yes, I see what you mean, as when you and he email every 6 or 8 months, it's hard for you to keep up the "in love" feeling for that person. I guess the brain chemicals cannot keep up a constant high without seeing the person, as I truly think romantic love is an addiction. I have thought about past boyfriends a lot, but at the same time, have no real desire to see them again. I guess you don't have to make a decision immediately about him, but think about things and then make a decision. Thanks for your advice. He was like an addiction girl. I can say that. At this moment, I don't have the desire to see him. I've decided to put it God's hands The interesting thing my little brother Asked about him...he NEVER talked about My ex but I mean same week?? Most wud Say that's fate or just a coinicidence *shrug* Lol
Author theloyalone1 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Can you clarify why you broke up? The day you were supposed to have lunch, did he call after you were supposed to meet? I called him the day before our lunch date and I didn't hear from him till the next day an hour before our scheduled Lunch date. I obviously wasn't on his agenda and that was The last straw. I ended it for good. 2008-2012. I couldn't see myself going another four years being an "option" To a guy I thought I loved deeply
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