Pure Life Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 We were together about 3 years and had a pretty bad breakup, cheated on me and left me for another girl...and yada yada. I started NC since he made it pretty clear he didn't want me in his life. Contacted about a month or so after wanting to get lunch with me wtf? But I wasn't around. Didn't hear from him for a while and he sent me a message cause he was mad about something silly but it's not important. About 6 months goes by and he sent me another message saying me wants to be friends and says the whole situation is awkward. Not sure how that is because I haven't seen or talked to him in such a long time. Now he seems to be responding to things I've been saying elsewhere but I'm not sure if he's being rude or if it's just his way of trying to be funny and smooth things over. Is he just throwing breadcrumbs or does he actually miss me or whats his deal? I'm sorry this is so vague but if you want/need more details feel free to pm me, don't need it to be seen. On a side note, I tried to put "confused" instead of unsure in my thread title and it said it was against community guidelines. Haha what?
Inviv_girl Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 We were together about 3 years and had a pretty bad breakup, cheated on me and left me for another girl...and yada yada. I started NC since he made it pretty clear he didn't want me in his life. Contacted about a month or so after wanting to get lunch with me wtf? But I wasn't around. Didn't hear from him for a while and he sent me a message cause he was mad about something silly but it's not important. About 6 months goes by and he sent me another message saying me wants to be friends and says the whole situation is awkward. Not sure how that is because I haven't seen or talked to him in such a long time. Now he seems to be responding to things I've been saying elsewhere but I'm not sure if he's being rude or if it's just his way of trying to be funny and smooth things over. Is he just throwing breadcrumbs or does he actually miss me or whats his deal? I'm sorry this is so vague but if you want/need more details feel free to pm me, don't need it to be seen. On a side note, I tried to put "confused" instead of unsure in my thread title and it said it was against community guidelines. Haha what? He cheated!!! probably doesn't work with the chick he cheated you for and want to get something from you. F** him!!
unexpectedlyhere Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 It's what I tried to convey to my ex before he walked. That if we broke up he didn't just give up our present, but our future too. Maybe he didn't get it, but I meant that if he doesn't stay to try and sort it, the "no more me in his life" is permanent, not temporary. I don't think everyone realises that. The "awkwardness" is his saying "It feels strange not having you around". As you say, it's not really awkward, since there's no contact at all! Let him stew in it until he actually knows he wants you back, not just he misses having you around.
NewPerspective93 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Odds are, he probably doesn't miss you in the manner that you think. Don't get your hopes up. If you still have mixed feelings about this, don't get too involved in this. Cheers.
Author Pure Life Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Thanks everyone. Like I said if you guys need more details I can give you them, I'd just rather do it in PM. I had attempted to try and be friends with him when we broke up (since that's usually the initial reaction of the dumpee) but he made no effort towards it. And now down the road he's suddenly wanting to be. I do think he developed some GIGS even though he had it good.
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