truckola Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Well after 22 years my wife is looking for a apartment and will most likely be filing for divorce. Hopefully she will be amendable to a divorce mediator so we don't get into lawyers (expense and lining their pockets) and tearing at each other. There are no children so it should be a "simple" process of separation of assets. Boy it sure hurts!!!
jf2good Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 So why after 22 years did she call it quits? It isn't the empty nest syndrome since the nest was always empty. 1
keepontruckin Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 So why after 22 years did she call it quits? It isn't the empty nest syndrome since the nest was always empty. If his wife is anything like my wife, it's because "she loves him, but is not in love with him.":laugh:
Author truckola Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Why? I have never cheated, not even close, but I am 60 and she is going on 62 and the marriage has as she puts it "been slowly spiraling down". The early years and I mean quite a few years there was a fire between us that never seemed to cool. In 2005 she had a scare with one of her breasts and they took part of one, it seems from that point on she has been withdrawing from many things. Now it has progressed that she has diabetes and has leg and foot pain from nerve damage. Many of the things we used to enjoy don't seem to appeal to either of us. Sometimes getting her out of the house during the weekends is impossible. The thing that has brought it to a head though is I wanted a dog, I got a german shepherd mix from a rescue. The dog is willing to accompany me on walks, play frisbe and go to the hardware store, she makes me laugh. This has made my wife feel like a third wheel. I just can't sit at home evening after evening and watch inane television and sit around on the weekends and do the same. Before the dog that is what happened.
keepontruckin Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 truckola, don't make the same mistake that I did! When my wife moved into her apartment, I furnished the phrocken place:laugh: When women decide to hit the love switch to off, it comes fast and hard. And it hits fast and hard. There is nothing you can do at this point. Grab a bottle of some fine Whiskey, listen to some songs on youtube, and figure out how you want to progress from this situation...
Author truckola Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I know its over, its been a good run but it is still very painful. Within limits I will help her set up a home for herself, I still care for her, but I have felt the same way as her that the "passion" has left. She mentioned last night that both of us have limited time left and need to get on with life. It does seem we were just waiting around for the end. Very weird I know.
keepontruckin Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 She'll be your friend as long as your furnishing... Trust me. If she wants to leave, let her leave! Don't help her to leave. It's counterintuitive!
jf2good Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 It is strange that the dog could be the cause of it. Now that she is sick and disabled is usually the time when people want to hang on as no one else will be there to take care of them. Just because she wants to be a recluse is no need for you to be one as well. If she is upset that you spend time with your dog going outside without her, she has some mental problems. On the positive side, you now can be a sugar daddy and not cheat. Oh come on it is a joke.
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