LilGirlandOW Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Any OW/OM/WS ever send racey pictures to AP? Any bad outcomes from such? My MM and I send pictures almost daily, not all racey, some of just casual and interesting things we come across, or funny things pet did, etc etc.... We both have alot from eachother, and neither of us think anything about it, if I were married I'd be scared to have photos "out there", even though he trusts me, we're best friends, still if my phone were to get stolen or something.... i dont know..... I even have some he send of his kids on outtings, etc. Experience with photo exchanges? I love it, its nice to see what he's experiencing and see him when i cant
bentleychic Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Yes, I send him pics. Some racy, some before I go out to a concert so he can enjoy the view, some just daily life. He sends me stuff when he's on his hunting trips or stuff he sees out and about that he thinks I might like. He rarely keeps the racy pics on his phone (I think he saved 2-3 of them) and I know he kept a picture of the two of us together (not racy, but hugging/cuddling couple pic) on his phone, too.
Got it Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Any OW/OM/WS ever send racey pictures to AP? Any bad outcomes from such? My MM and I send pictures almost daily, not all racey, some of just casual and interesting things we come across, or funny things pet did, etc etc.... We both have alot from eachother, and neither of us think anything about it, if I were married I'd be scared to have photos "out there", even though he trusts me, we're best friends, still if my phone were to get stolen or something.... i dont know..... I even have some he send of his kids on outtings, etc. Experience with photo exchanges? I love it, its nice to see what he's experiencing and see him when i cant Not so much during the affair, but afterwards, yes! Actually I am doing boudoir photo shoot next week to surprise him with some very sexy pictures! 1
herenow Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 That is how my cousin found out her H was cheating. Pictures are not disputable. Just saying.
underwater2010 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Agree with Herenow....I have the racy photos/videos MOW sent. Yes I keep them as insurance. I also sent the to her BH when I discovered the affair. Remember that you cannot get those back once you send them.
ForeverHopeful1 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Any OW/OM/WS ever send racey pictures to AP? Any bad outcomes from such? My MM and I send pictures almost daily, not all racey, some of just casual and interesting things we come across, or funny things pet did, etc etc.... We both have alot from eachother, and neither of us think anything about it, if I were married I'd be scared to have photos "out there", even though he trusts me, we're best friends, still if my phone were to get stolen or something.... i dont know..... I even have some he send of his kids on outtings, etc. Experience with photo exchanges? I love it, its nice to see what he's experiencing and see him when i cant You have pictures of HER children? This guy has NO boundaries. 4
Lady2163 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I have sent racy pics, it is the one way I can guarantee he will stop what he is doing and delete all texts from this sender number. I don't have any of him on my phone. Yikes...I never thought about what would happen if I lost my phone. I hate clearing texts, particularly the funny ones.
ComingInHot Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 From what I've read here, it's an excellent way to have a d-day. Also a great way to have your pics end up All Over the internet and in the hands of people who you'd rather Not have them... Yikes! 1
canuckprincess Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Any OW/OM/WS ever send racey pictures to AP? Any bad outcomes from such? My MM and I send pictures almost daily, not all racey, some of just casual and interesting things we come across, or funny things pet did, etc etc.... We both have alot from eachother, and neither of us think anything about it, if I were married I'd be scared to have photos "out there", even though he trusts me, we're best friends, still if my phone were to get stolen or something.... i dont know..... I even have some he send of his kids on outtings, etc. Experience with photo exchanges? I love it, its nice to see what he's experiencing and see him when i cant I wouldn't send dirty pics to anyone, far too risky and once you put an image out there it could be out there forever.
canuckprincess Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 You have pictures of HER children? This guy has NO boundaries. Some men have no boundaries, is he looking to get caught or is he just not overly smart? 1
canuckprincess Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 That is how my cousin found out her H was cheating. Pictures are not disputable. Just saying. You are sooo right! 1
Author LilGirlandOW Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I have pictures of his kids, I've also been out with him and kids and know his eldest child very well.. we have a close relationship... I know this is very a-typical. Heres where it gets wacky in that case, eldest thinks he and I make a great couple... wacky i know..
Author LilGirlandOW Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I have been out with MM eldest, taken her picture and sent it to him so he could see what we were up to
Turtles Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 You have pictures of HER children? This guy has NO boundaries. If you have a friend - without being involved with him/her sexually - do you ever send pictures of your children to them? If the affair started as a friendship would you suddenly stop sharing family pictures?
Lady2163 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I have pictures of his kids, I've also been out with him and kids and know his eldest child very well.. we have a close relationship... I know this is very a-typical. Heres where it gets wacky in that case, eldest thinks he and I make a great couple... wacky i know.. It's obviously not a stranger affair, she's known to his family as something other than his affair. My married man has a child who plays sports. The matches are broadcast online live. I tried watching one once, but I felt like I was somehow stalking, even though he gave me the link and time to watch. I quit watching after a few minutes in, later I did follow up and tell him what a great play child had made at such and such a time. I've never watched again, but I do ask how the match went when I know there's been one.
So happy together Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Well, of course we sent pics. Nothing too racy... and no faces. Now, we send even more. Lol 1
Effy149 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I've only sent pictures a few times, but when I do, it's with SnapChat. It's a great app because he allows you to set a time limit on the photo and it will tell you if the person takes a screenshot of it.
So happy together Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 From what I've read here, it's an excellent way to have a d-day. Also a great way to have your pics end up All Over the internet and in the hands of people who you'd rather Not have them... Yikes! As I said, no faces. But... it did cause a Dday. But really, the texts alone would have caused a Dday.
hippetyhop Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Guilty as charged. Yeah, we both exchanged pics. He said he had them saved in a place she couldn't find on his phone..but he dumped his phone when she was given a heads up As for his kids, he would send me pics of them here and there.
HopingAgain Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Some cheaters just beg to get caught. I guess being so sloppy with evidence is a plus for BSs who are needing to know the truth though. 1
bentleychic Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 As I said, no faces. But... it did cause a Dday. But really, the texts alone would have caused a Dday. Exactly. NO faces. Although obviously the couple pic that he has of us together has our faces. It's not racy at all, though, it is obvious that we're close and in a home setting due to what you can see in the picture. I will say that my MM knows my kids, they've all met him and like him and vice versa. (They met him years before the A started, though.) They know he's my friend and I've sent him an occasional pic of them when we're out and about doing things, but generally he just looks at them on face book. (I try to keep very active with my kids on my days off so we're always doing something or going somewhere and normally pictures are taken and he always likes seeing what we're doing.)
Cocochai Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 We sent racy pictures once... I was actually surprised because I never thought he would but... Lets just say it made me so horny that we met up during lunch hours lol I'm suppose to be on NC... I hate this lol
ForeverHopeful1 Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 If you have a friend - without being involved with him/her sexually - do you ever send pictures of your children to them? If the affair started as a friendship would you suddenly stop sharing family pictures? Although I can understand what you have typed, I guess I just feel cheating crosses boundaries and it would make me sick to know my H was sending his OW pictures of OUR children. I suppose it would be blatantly obvious if he stopped sending pictures of his family he laid down and made to LilGirlandOW. The wife might notice Lil isn't being sent pictures of her children, and pick up on the A. You're right, MM should keep sending pictures of their family to the woman he is seeing on the side. That will be what causes a D Day - BW will realize MM isn't sending Lil pictures of her kids.
Phoenix32 Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 My MM and I have sent each other pictures - some racy and some of everyday life. He doesn't keep them on his phone and neither do I, so I guess that's a good thing.
sweet_pea Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Oh god...the pictures. I had my blackmail photo's. I used them.. After I had told his bs of the A I wanted to be clear that he not contact me. (He still wanted me back even though I told). I wrote him a text telling him that he was lucky I only told her of the A and not sent the pictures I had along with the emails. I sent the pics with the text I sent. -us in their bathroom -his face between my legs ( this was my ultimate blackmail photo, he was pleasuring me and I grabbed my phone and said "HEY" he looked up and I snapped the pic) -a puddle on their bed - the sex swing he hid from her in their basement ............... He didnt have his phone....she did. This was not one of my proudest moments. I had the photos, I never actually intended for her to see them. I can't imagine how hurt seeing them would be to her. It's one thing to hear about your spouses A..it's another to actually see it. May I ask why you sent all of those photos? It's one thing to send maybe one photo of you two together, but all of those? Ones of him in between your legs, a puddle on their bed (y'all did it in their bed/inside their home...?!) did you do it to rub salt in her wounds? I'm sure she/he would have gotten the message with maybe just a simple photo of you together but the explicit ones? I'm also curious as to why you took the puddle picture...
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