kariina Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I've been dating a guy for 3 months and currently we haven't seen each other because I'm back home visiting some family. I won't see him until one more month. However I've noticed that I don't miss him as much as I thought I would, just the hugging & kissing more than anything. He always initiates contact and I would always be happy and excited to answer him. But now I don't get the same feeling anymore. I sometimes don't answer his text until 2 days later but that's just because he sends a second or third message. I really like him and when I see him in person I even feel like I'm in love with him. But lately I don't know why I've been ignoring him ?
Mascara Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Yeah sounds like you're losing interest. Those are usually the first signs for me, when I'm not bothered about being in contact.
jphcbpa Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Could be, but don't over think it. Give it more time and see how you feel. Keep taking care of you and having fun while you are gone. My g/f went on a trip back in June with her son. She called me when she could, no pressure on my end...I let her do the contacting because she was out of the country...and I could tell in her voice that she missed me. It seems she missed me more than she thought she would and expressed as much upon her return. It felt great and our R has been taken to another level since then. Perhaps your feelings will change again in the next week or two. Just be with it, observe them and do not make any decisions either way.
Mr.Mango Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Relationships move in waves. It's impossible to have a steady level of attraction and interest. (Would maybe explain why ex's hate each other one moment, and then decided to get back together?) So it's likely you're just in a low spot right now. It's when you stay in a low spot and don't move up again that you're probably on the track to disinterest. In any case, don't jump the gun! It's like assuming you're deeply depressed because you're sad a couple of days. You need some time to properly access things. I would also definitely wait and see how you are once you see him again.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Yeah sounds like you're losing interest. Those are usually the first signs for me, when I'm not bothered about being in contact. Agreed. You're not as into it as you once were. My current man has been abroad for two weeks and he touches base each day. I haven't put pressure on him about it, either...he does so voluntarily. And I initiate contact, too. Not caring for a few days whether you are in touch is a sign that you're checking out, in my opinion. If that's the case, you need to speak to him. if you don't, he'll be posting a thread here soon wondering why his girlfriend is being distant and eliciting opinions about whether or not he's losing you.
bigpapa78 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Take your time and think it through. Sometimes being away helps you clear your thoughts and reassess your relationship. It is I think quite normally to sometimes feel this way. Talk to your partner about how you feel and this will only help the situation and set both of you in the right path. Good luck!
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