I can't move on.. He's doing so well without me

[Kc220525]

It's been a month since my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me. Even though he denied it, I know he was talking to several girls before he dumped me. Despite him being an ass to me after the breakup, telling me how he's not attracted to me anymore, and how much he doesn't love or miss me anymore, I can't forget about him because he was nothing but caring and loving throughout the relationship. All of a sudden he dumps me now that he's financially stable.

 

For the past month, I've broken NC 3 times, each time I was left feeling even more devastated. The last time was so bad I'm 1000% sure I'm not going to break NC again. I've gone back and forth between the stages of anger, bargaining, and depression. I'd get glimpses of the acceptance stage only to go back to the depression stage again.

 

I was starting to accept the breakup and move on but today I saw one of his photos that he was hanging out with another girl. Not just any girl, but the girl I was suspicious of him having feelings for while we were together, to which he denied to at the time. I'm heartbroken all over again.

 

DEEP down I know we have incompatibilities that can't be fixed even if we get back together, but it's killing me that his life is so much better without me. I know the common advice is to get out and have fun with my own life but I've tried and it doesn't really work.. I don't have any friends ever since I went into depression years back. I have a big family that is fun to hang out with but when I'm alone at night all I think about is him. I know I am better off than most people who got dumped because a lot of people find me attractive so I have a better chance of getting another relationship but it's not that easy.. Many guys have hit on me after the breakup, 2 of them wants a relationship with me, but all that does is make me feel worse. Every time I get hit on, is a reminder that I am single because my ex doesn't want me.

 

Guys.. what can I do..?

Edited July 26, 2013 by Kc220525

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Oh I so recognize myself in this. Hes not an ass for being honest about his feelings? And its only been a month .. Sorry to say its gonna be a slow process of acceptance, be patient, see him for what he is. You dont want to be with someone who dont feel the same, its just a dream, he isnt affected badly by this so why should you be..not fair

[Kc220525]

You're right he's not an ass for being honest about his feelings..

I just felt really betrayed because during our break (before the real breakup) he was really firm when he keeps saying he still really loves me and want to be with me when he gets his life together. I found out it was just a lie and he was checking other girls out. I just really hate him for leading me on for so long and to now just say he lost feelings. He should've told me earlier.

[jesse93]

no contact.. NC whatsoever all you're doing is hurting yourself doing that, just look at how it makes you feel every time you look on his facebook or where ever you're seeing this information from and just remember how much pain it makes you feel everytime you see something like that, sometimes its just better not to know who theyre with what theyre doing, itll heal quicker if you just block him from everything and truly take time to let yourself heal you're only prolonging your pain by doing stuff like that..

[heartshapedrocks]

As already mentioned patience & no contact.

Our ex's are not always truthful for whatever reason.

I went through a similar experience: 4+yrs then poof out the door, 2 months later dating someone who was just a "friend" (a friendship I supported), now engaged (Ex called to let me know so precious....)

I'm sure I made mistakes too (like picking up the phone) so now its almost a yr & it does get better.

Give yourself some time & treat yourself well.

I found out I could not afford to practice "I'll show you I'll hurt me".

We will all get up and brush ourselves off and try again.

Hang in there.