aloneinaz Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 So, my ex of 1.4 years broke up with me two months ago. It was a rocky on/off relationship the last 5 months of it with multiple break-ups through it. She broke up with me three times this year, usually when I pointed out something like her poor behavior towards me or others. She knows she has issues and has been off/on in therapy. The third and final break up came when I had the odacity to tell her I was tiring of her poor tone and attitude, snapping and being a bitch to me when she was stressed/overwhelmed or annoyed. She said she was done during the conversation and I said fine. I got my stuff two days later and she hasn't heard a word from me since. The first two weeks were terrible. Shock that we'd broken up yet again when she promised she wouldn't do it, that I was the love of her life, blah, blah, blah.. Bitterness towards her for busting my butt helping her and her kids the last 5 months. Those first two weeks were rough. Poor sleep, anxiety, poor appetite. Going into week 3 of NC, I started to feel better. I got mad and joined two dating sites. By week 3 I started dating again because there was no reason for me to sit at home and mourn a DEAD, toxic relationship. I quickly started to enjoy the attention, emailing, texting, etc.. It was fun. I had several dates since and slept with several as well. I'm now seeing just one girl for the past 3 weeks that I really like. Do I still think of my ex after two months of NC? Absolutely. I feel no pain. I can visualize her having sex w/others and it doesn't bother me anymore because she's not in my life. The only lingering things about her is the fact that it's really over. The finality of it. We'd broken up so many times but usually got back together after a couple of weeks. We went almost 30 days once before talking and reconciling. It's important to note that almost everytime we broke up, it was me chasing her and getting her back. Each time we reconciliated, I think she had less interest in me or the relationship and felt like she could treat me or talk to me anyway she pleased. I think she had less respect for me since I always chased her even though she was the primary reason we had so many break ups. I remind myself often that I wasn't happy with her the last few months either. I often came home from her house after spending the evening there wondering why I was putting up with such a bitch. My friends and family thought I was nuts to get back together with her after some of her BS. I'm still wondering why I didn't stay broken up with her as well. I loved her intensly and her children. That may have driven some of it. The good news is we get over it. She seems like a stranger to me know. I'm moving on and hopefully, I don't screw up this new relationship cause I like her alot. It's nice being in another relationship while I'm being told by a single buddy that he see's my ex everynight on two dating sites. Karma baby..
GamerGurl Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Kudos to you! I am struggling with getting over my ex. It has been 2 months of him doing NC. I attempted contact about 4 times and every time i got shot down. He is already dating a girl he just barely met so I am in that stage where thinking about it still hurts. I don't know how to get out of that specific stage.
Author aloneinaz Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 Kudos to you! I am struggling with getting over my ex. It has been 2 months of him doing NC. I attempted contact about 4 times and every time i got shot down. He is already dating a girl he just barely met so I am in that stage where thinking about it still hurts. I don't know how to get out of that specific stage. Who broke up with who?
GamerGurl Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Who broke up with who? It is a complicated situation... One snapped and one tried to come back then the other snapped and the other tried to come back. He snapped last and walked and I haven't seen him since. He is already rebounding a girl he met 4 weeks after our break up. Completely opposite of me too.
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