Rikko Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 (edited) So we've been messaging back on forth for about almost 2 months now. I met him through a dating website without any intention of actually dating him. For that we've met through a dating website we were discussing things that people would not really delve into with someone they've met online or on a virtual space. We both enjoyed exchanging ideas, thoughts and we still do.While we were messaging back and forth he opened up a lot especially about his past, his ex and his dysfunctional relationship with his parents. So we've finally met few weeks ago. I never really gave it any thought or expected anything. It was fine with if we never saw each other again after our first meetup. On our first meetup I wasn't impressed or that into him. But guess he was. We ended up staying up late that night which was unusual for me. A week or so ago we scheduled another meetup. And again we stayed up until 1 am in the morning. We were both exhausted but still didn't mind just sitting there out in the park by the river. He constantly messages me when we're not together. It seems like to me we never get out of things to discuss. We never have enough time. Few days ago he asked me out officially and I agreed. He says he's intrigued by me and how my mind operates. He's sweet, caring , outgoing, funny, intelligent and smart all that I want in a guy. As much as I hate to admit after the second meetup I am attracted to him on some level. I feel like the more I get to know him and the more time I spend with him I am slowly getting attached to him emotionally. And that is the usual course of dating. I know that too well. But the problem is prior meeting in person while we were still messaging back and forth he's said that he was waiting on his ex who's currently with another guy. He's said he's going to win her back no matter what and willing to wait for however long that is needed. He went on and said she was special, and he loves her without a doubt. At that time I wasn't thinking much of it because I wasn't attracted to him at that point so I was there offering him some advice and what I was thinking about the whole win her back situation. When we first met he never discussed about her besides letting me know that it is over between her and him. But i doubt he's completely moved on. Now my concern is if I invest too much of myself in him and get emotionally attached to him on a high level I fear in case if his ex changes her mind and decides to get back with him what will he do? where do I stand in that scenario? I also wonder whether he's using me to get over her? not that I'm offended or anything but I really do not want to put myself in that position. Then again I think its unfair for him too to get emotionally attached to me only to see me leaving soon. I am planning on moving abroad and had some serious thoughts about the subject. I already know that we will eventually go into opposite directions. Even so I can't help it. But at the same I'm afraid of getting hurt. What should I do now? Edited July 26, 2013 by Rikko
Philosoraptor Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 This is something you will need to discuss with him. Just because he said something awhile back doesn't mean his intentions are still the same. How long was he out of the breakup at that point? If it was fresh it could just have been him holding onto the past. It does sound like he's getting rather attached to you. Talk with him and if he seems like he's past his past, then see where it goes from here.
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