Would it bother you if your partner was attracted to you only because of personality?

[USMCHokie]

Usually I think women look much better without make up in the first place.

 

Then the women you see don't know how to put on makeup. Or they're so good at it that they can fool you into thinking they're not wearing any make up.

 

 

And to answer the OP's question, yes, I would take my business elsewhere.

 

EDIT: Unless she was extremely hot.

Edited July 27, 2013 by USMCHokie

[Silly_Girl]

That might just come down to your particular definition of the word, I think.

 

Have you done online dating? If so, has it never happened to you that you talk to someone online or over the phone, and find them extremely attractive... but then their appearance puts you off?

 

Just an example

 

I've had similar. When we met in the flesh they were not my cup of tea physically, I was disappointed. But chemistry, attraction etc kicked in and I had crash hot sex all the time and was behaving like I was on heat. And the attraction never wore off.

[man_in_the_box]

Lets say you somehow found out that your partner was attracted to you because of your personality but didnt find you particularly physically attractive would it not matter to you? would it bother you at all?

 

What does not 'particularly attractive mean'? If it is like no physical attraction at all or just not as much being completely infatuated by the way someone looks? Big difference.

[therhythm]

Bluntly speaking, I've yet to meet a man who didn't put looks and sexual attraction first. It's how reasonably sized a piece of the attraction pie he allocates towards the superficial that makes him a worthwhile man to emotionally invest in.

 

So, as it relates to a partner being strictly attracted to personality, I don't think it's a very common occurrence with men.

 

I tend to agree with you, generally speaking men are more visual and women more emotional based....

[RogerWallace111]

Bluntly speaking, I've yet to meet a man who didn't put looks and sexual attraction first. It's how reasonably sized a piece of the attraction pie he allocates towards the superficial that makes him a worthwhile man to emotionally invest in.

 

So, as it relates to a partner being strictly attracted to personality, I don't think it's a very common occurrence with men.

 

 

It's unfortunate, but in most cases, you're correct. Though friends of mine have definitely dated girls just because they thought they were cool and/or fun, even though I know they wouldn't consider them attractive objectively. It tends to not last in those situations though.

 

I'm kind of of the ilk you describe whether I'd like it to be the case or not. Which isn't to say I couldn't hit it off with a girl I didn't initially find attractive & become interested. But, the physical is the first thing you see. And I don't just mean pretty face, fat ass, big tits. I mean the way she carries herself, her style of dress, etc. Some are, but I'm definitely not just looking at a girl as a piece of meat or something, the way many women seem to think. Put a woman with a great body and pretty face in some tacky threads with a trashy make-up job and I won't give a sh*t about her. Oh and the way a girl moves/walks, etc is a major thing for me... ooh goddamn

[RedRobin]

Say a woman is lusting after, I don't know, David Hasselhoff. some hot guy. And it's based strictly on appearance. She sees him at a hotel, goes to approach him, and he makes a dickhead comment to her, brushing her off. She's not gonna keep thinking about him like she had been. Probably never once again. Unless she's a masochistic hoe.

 

Oh. I dunno. I still get the hots for a couple of very studly not-so-nice guys I turned down.

 

When they talk to me, I just turn on that little white noise generator in my brain. Works like a charm. Can't hear a thing that comes out of their mouths. Even when they are jerks. They are nice to look at though.

 

There is nothing masochistic about enjoying the scenery, ha ha

 

I'd say they are the masochistic hoes if they have to keep coming around to hear me say no over and over again.

[thefooloftheyear]

My personality sucks..so I guess that would cause me to shake my head..

 

My heart is in the right place, so??(shrug)..

 

TFY