SJ69 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Hey! So me and my ex girlfriend broke up about a month ago. We broke up because she wasn't as invested as she used to be and didn't want to hurt me or lead me on. Well, we were no contact for this time period. Except she texted me to ask how I was and about my new tattoo. And I texted her happy birthday and about an old photo of me and her sister playing basketball when we were kids, something that was just a really funny thing. All the times we've spoken have been cordial and nice but the last time we spoke, yesterday for about 10 minutes, in which I initiated with the photo, she seemed happy to speak to me. When we talked on her birthday briefly she was flirtatious and joyful, yesterday she sent long messages and you could just tell she was happy to speak again. After all, we spoke literally every day 24/7, doing everything together. She got a new piercing and said, "I wanted to text you about it because you know how I am with that stuff but I didn't want you to be like what the heck," and proceeded to tell me the story. We leave for college in less than a month, different schools. She was and I was her, bestfriend. In every sense of the word. Neither of us want to lose that. But I refuse to initiate the friendship stage when I didn't break off the relationship. She's scared to initiate it because she knows she hurt me and I feel like she's scared of denial, especially after what she said about not texting me because she didn't feel like she could tell me those things anymore. What do I do? Thank you in advance for your advice! It's much appreciated!
Inviv_girl Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Hey! So me and my ex girlfriend broke up about a month ago. We broke up because she wasn't as invested as she used to be and didn't want to hurt me or lead me on. Well, we were no contact for this time period. Except she texted me to ask how I was and about my new tattoo. And I texted her happy birthday and about an old photo of me and her sister playing basketball when we were kids, something that was just a really funny thing. All the times we've spoken have been cordial and nice but the last time we spoke, yesterday for about 10 minutes, in which I initiated with the photo, she seemed happy to speak to me. When we talked on her birthday briefly she was flirtatious and joyful, yesterday she sent long messages and you could just tell she was happy to speak again. After all, we spoke literally every day 24/7, doing everything together. She got a new piercing and said, "I wanted to text you about it because you know how I am with that stuff but I didn't want you to be like what the heck," and proceeded to tell me the story. We leave for college in less than a month, different schools. She was and I was her, bestfriend. In every sense of the word. Neither of us want to lose that. But I refuse to initiate the friendship stage when I didn't break off the relationship. She's scared to initiate it because she knows she hurt me and I feel like she's scared of denial, especially after what she said about not texting me because she didn't feel like she could tell me those things anymore. What do I do? Thank you in advance for your advice! It's much appreciated! You are in a friendzone, my friend. To ease on the guilt the dumper normally do this "friends" things until they solid enough to let go completely. And you will leave with tons of hurt when one day whe will just stop, just stop talking to you. You will hurt even more, just you! If you are still very much wanted relationship with her, to be in friendzone is not a good idea. Anyway... both of you are still very young I believe. College love.. young love... you still have long way to go, so don't worry
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