youcanever Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Pals, I think i am kind of in a life changing point în my life. I am 23 year old and my ex broke up with me 8 weeks ago and my heart was shattered. And we talked couple of more times after break up but they were just checking up. At our last talk she told me to get out of her life. It has been 2 weeks and i started to feel good again. But time to time bad feelings come back. Anyway i am way more stronger and independent now. I am working out 4-5 days a weeks, starting swimming once a week, have a great job,going swşng dance class once a week, meeting friends more often. Girls started to seem attractiv to me again. I think this is a sign that i am moving on. What i want to ask is, which route should i chose? I want to give it one more try with my ex but she doesnt want. Shold i waît and be nice guy she loved once? Or should i go and hit on every girl i find attractive and şose my chances with her? I am not good at seducing girls but i am good looking and i want to give it a shot being a player. I still have feelings for my ex but i also want other girls to distract my mind otherwise i think of her a lot. Alao she is going to germany and holland for 2 weeks and i am sure she will get drunk and do something. This idea kills me. What shoul i do? Hit on everygirl and try even though lots of rejection will be? Or contact my ex and tell her i still want her when she come back from trip? Which is a month later?
lizzy31291 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I am recently broken up with my boyfriend too, 16 days now Anyways the best thing for you to do is to go no contact with her it will help you move on with your life and focus on yourself. If she contacts you ignore her!! My ex gave me the lame excuse that he wants to "find himself" and honestly it is their loss. I am 22 and your 23 we have our whole lives ahead of us, but I know the pain you are in and it sucks, only time will heal that. I know I still cry a lot and think about him all the time, but you have to look at it like this she ended the relationship with you, and she is saying I no longer want to be with you, it is hard to except for sure and it hurts me to know that I truly loved someone with all my heart and it sounds like you did too, but if it meant to be it will be. You never know maybe she will come back, but you have to think that she is not in order for you to carry on with your life. Go on dates with girls, go out and embrace that you are single. She will most likely come back and by that time it will be too late. Enjoy your life thats what i say. As for your ex and mine...the grass is not always greener on the other side and, you never know what you have until you don't have it anymore...
Philosoraptor Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 You want to try again and she does not? Well that answers that. You shouldn't wait around for anyone, nevermind someone who doesn't want to be with you. What you need to work on right now is moving on. That doesn't mean a new relationship necessarily, but focusing on yourself and your own growth. If you want to date, have fun. Just keep it light and don't get into anything serious until your heart is fully healed from the past.
Author youcanever Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 Thank you for the comments. I definitel do no want to get in a relationship. I am done. I am 23 and never experienced a relaxed superficial relationship. There was always too much love included by me and too much pain for me as well. I just want to date too many girls and have too much experiences with them and enjoy my single life and try to have fun. Just dont know where to start. Maybe one day she returns and we start again but till that time i dont want to sit around and wait for her. She is enjoying her life so much already.
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