heggs Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 (edited) Hey all, So to get started my ex partner and I dated for 2 years or so, it was a great start she was happy we have lived together for over a year, got a cat everything you can think off. After the two year mark the fights got worse every week we'd argue, I recently moved out she wanted a break from the fights, but I left and moved back home with my parents. the house she is currently in has her name and mine on the lease. She had a dvo on me cause I scared her she told me, so I went to court the dvo was granted as I did nothing wrong. She then msged me abusing me etc, I gave her number to a close girl I knew to tell her to stop, but it turned out she was Bagging her calling her names and so on, I had no idea. Shortly after that her number had changed and she had Blocked me, she told me she did all of that so she wouldn't put her self at risk of talking to me. A week later I drove to see her and ask what is happening , she Broke down hugged and kissed me, told me she missed me And loved me, then unblocked me On fb, she told me she hasn't Been eating, she's been drinking heavily until she passes out acting like a fool told me she is Close to loosing her job, saying she'll end her life tonight We did talk for a few days. I tryed to talk a few times and i got no Reply. Once again she has blocked, I have noticed she kept every single Picture of us kissing and so on her fb,. I'm not sure what's going on here... Any insights Edited July 26, 2013 by heggs Mistake
Philosoraptor Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 She is very unstable and the best thing you can do is to cut out of her life completely. She is not only messing up your head, but has put a domestic violence order out on you for what you claim is nothing. She will ruin your life if you stay in it. Her choices are her own, and you need to focus on yourself right now and stay far away. 1
TaraMaiden Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Look at the reason for editing, on your first post. I think that covers it. 2
Author heggs Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 Oki, when we went to court she told the judge it wasn't because of me but because of my girl mate contacting her, I think she's is quite unstable at this moment. I told her to block me which she has done. She barely eats or sleep now she told me. I really don't understand after all this... It makes no sense to Me, she has lost controll, where as I have since started talking to friends again started weights, and she told me I was doing much better without her.. And that she was scum of the earth. Why has she not deleted all of our corny pics on Facebook etc, I have but she hasn't, and she's online 24.7.. What's is this Black magic!
Author heggs Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 This is true! I still don't understand , why she would tell me all this then change her number block me on face book, sounds to me likes she's not handling it well? Very unstable maybe ?
Author heggs Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 who knows, who cares. When you realise that your focus needs to be on you and NOT her only then can real emotional growth be achieved..Let this girl go and focus on the 'why' you were attratced to a crazy chick. Once you learn the answers you don't repeat past mistakes. If your focus remains on her, you will repeat the same mistakes. It really is that simple.. I have a strange feeling shell try to return one way or another. But that's oki, I'm not heartbroken, I'm more confused on what's she's trying to achieve. Possibly lost and unstable ?
Author heggs Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 Try to absorb what I am telling you...It doesn't matter. I spent friggin months diagnosing my ex's trying to figure out what caused their weird behaviour(s). All that did was delay dealing with my own problems. Emotionally healthy people don't end up woth women like this. It's a cast iron fact. Like night following day. Ergo you have your own problems... Sometimes people are crazy and thats all you need to know. You don't need to go deeper then that for answers, but you do need to make sure this doesn't happen again so let me repeat. HER PROBLEMS..........IT DOESNT MATTER... Good point, I guess it's her problem now and however she deals with it is up to her... Not to mention who whole family is the same... I'll have a bad day when I'll say **** 2 years gone I miss her couple minutes later I'll be thinking what the fark she's psychotic and wish her the best with living a life like she is. No biggie though, I feel like im 100 yards ahead, eating, working out, etc.
Inviv_girl Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 She blocked you on facebook. How the heck you know she kept the pics of you two?!? you stalked her with another account? Anyway,... doesn't matter what she did, you two are broke up! so it doesn't matter! no matter whose fault it was, try to focus on yourself and not what she does.
Author heggs Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 Erm , she blocked me unblocked me then blocked me, when I was Unblocked a few days ago I saw them -_-... Dunno about you but once it's over I don't keep any of those things... I have been focusing on me!!!
TaraMaiden Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 You sadly don't sound like you are. You sound like you're gap-filling; compensating; trying to replace. And the moment you stop doing those things - eating, working out, etc.... it just all comes back in. So you're not as ahead as you're trying to convince yourself you are.
Author heggs Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 You sadly don't sound like you are. You sound like you're gap-filling; compensating; trying to replace. And the moment you stop doing those things - eating, working out, etc.... it just all comes back in. So you're not as ahead as you're trying to convince yourself you are. Somewhat I guess.. But I don't feel sad ...? Mores of less was trying to get a prospective of what she thinking..
Inviv_girl Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Somewhat I guess.. But I don't feel sad ...? Mores of less was trying to get a prospective of what she thinking.. What she think it doesn't matter anymore. You are no longer in a relationship with her! If you really focus on yourself, those things won't matter to you. I got bunches of pictures with my ex- on every social media especially Facebook. Surely I deleted some already and then I got tired and just let it be. I just set the album for myself and don't bother to look at it anymore. If people on the album are still tagged, they still can see the pic of them that been tagged. When I have time I will just delete all that more than 4000 pics of ours!
Chi townD Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Oki, when we went to court she told the judge it wasn't because of me but because of my girl mate contacting her, I think she's is quite unstable at this moment. I told her to block me which she has done. She barely eats or sleep now she told me. I really don't understand after all this... It makes no sense to Me, she has lost controll, where as I have since started talking to friends again started weights, and she told me I was doing much better without her.. And that she was scum of the earth. Why has she not deleted all of our corny pics on Facebook etc, I have but she hasn't, and she's online 24.7.. What's is this Black magic! Don't believe a word of what's she's telling you about not eating or sleeping. She is. She's just trying to make you feel guilty. Like, YOU'RE the cause of her not eating or sleeping. Thing is, she dumped you and you're out of the house now. So, she's trying to demonize you in her head. That she's scared of you and your friends, that all you do is argue with her and frighten her....blah...blah... By demonizing you, it helps her believe that she made the right choice of getting rid of you. Making herself believe it. I believe that's all it is.
Author heggs Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 There's this one bitch she works with who controls her whole life.. Isn't it funny how one person can control you!? She tells her all this **** and makes her believe, which is cute . The one to break it of was sorta of me, before I walked out she told me we need counseling blah blah. I'll let her believe what she wants, I will more the likely come crashing down.
Author heggs Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I also recived a MSG from her brother saying I stole her work sheoes and his shoes from there house ...
jesse93 Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I also recived a MSG from her brother saying I stole her work sheoes and his shoes from there house ... who cares about their shoes and where they went, idk why they would even care about that that much unless she put her brother up to texting you to try and get your attention, nonetheless man just let her do her thing you've got your own life to live now without her in it, you don't want her staying around she is not a healthy person to be in a relationship with.
TaraMaiden Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 heggs I have three words for you: call/text blocker.
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