hinatticus Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 It's been about 4 solid months and things seem to be on the up and up. We're still doing counseling and are planning our future together. It's weird now thinking back... We were broken up for 14 months and those were the toughest times I've ever had to endure. It's true what they say though... They come back when you least expect it. The key thing is to fix yourself, love yourself and move on. Thanks to all that have helped me through those dark times. 6
Destromarch Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 It melts my heart to see such succes stories in here. I hope you guys work it out and have a wonderful life together. Wish I could get to the point where I least expect it. 2
Author hinatticus Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 It melts my heart to see such succes stories in here. I hope you guys work it out and have a wonderful life together. Wish I could get to the point where I least expect it. You'll get there! My ex left me when our son was only a year and half. That hurt me so much. It was so hard to stay strong and work on myself, but I managed to get to a point where I accepted the situation and eventually dated several women. It killed me to see my son being transported around so much but it was what it was. I'm so grateful he's back in a stable family again. He turns 3 tomorrow and we're celebrating as a family again. Feels so good! 1
Skalabanan Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Fantastic to hear, it really is nice to see people comeback and relay their second chance stories, I think dependant on how far people have progressed it gives that nice heart warming feeling without building up hope.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I am glad for you...I wish you all the best.. Its been a solid 7 months and she showed some interest in getting back a month ago..I just wanted no part of it..And still dont...Its funny, I do care about her, but no longer feel anything for her in a romantic/relationship way.. I do wonder as time goes by if that will change. I doubt it..I have met a few women in the last few months that show me how weak she truly is..I am not ready for a real relationship at this time, so I am taking it slow.. Have fun, bro...If it all works out, great! TFY 2
anythingbut Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Top work my man - read through your story and was rooting for you all the way. Takes a real man to face up to his weaknesses and work solidly on eliminating them as you have done. For me, it remains very much a work in progress to get to that golden 'acceptance' stage. Not sure how long it'll take, but I'm 5 months down the line and I'm still feeling it hard. One question; one thing that has lept out to me from your story is that you remained in contact with her throughot the whole break-up. Do you feel this was vital in the reconciliation progress? It's interesting, as we all go no-contact, and in my case I changed all my contact details too. You're story has made me wonder if you need to remain in contact in order for them to see that you are a change man? ...In turn, this is at odds with the concept of going NC to work on yourself and the process of acceptance. Any way, top man! And thanks for sharing your story
Author hinatticus Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 Top work my man - read through your story and was rooting for you all the way. Takes a real man to face up to his weaknesses and work solidly on eliminating them as you have done. For me, it remains very much a work in progress to get to that golden 'acceptance' stage. Not sure how long it'll take, but I'm 5 months down the line and I'm still feeling it hard. One question; one thing that has lept out to me from your story is that you remained in contact with her throughot the whole break-up. Do you feel this was vital in the reconciliation progress? It's interesting, as we all go no-contact, and in my case I changed all my contact details too. You're story has made me wonder if you need to remain in contact in order for them to see that you are a change man? ...In turn, this is at odds with the concept of going NC to work on yourself and the process of acceptance. Any way, top man! And thanks for sharing your story Thanks man. I felt weak at times going to counseling, but it helped a lot. I think having a child together you're kinda forced to stay in contact. I think it helped because she saw how awesome I was with my son. Plus it forced a wedge between anyone she was dating. I know everyone's situation is different so I basically just took things day by day. The longest we went without talking I think was a couple of days. At times I wish I could've just cut her off but having a child made that impossible. I think I was starting to accept things at around the 8 month mark. I was mostly focused on myself and my son.
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