Said he felt like breaking up with me was a mistake...

[kevinwilliams]

I recently broke up with my LDR fiancé after 3 1/2 years of dating. Although it was LDR we did make plans to kill the distance eventually (bc why would a constant LDR make any sense) once he was settled into his new apartment. When we Skyped the day he broke up with me I reminded him that I would be willing to move to be with him and he asked me, "well, what do you want to do?" I told him again that I would be willing to move to to be with him to kill the distance and he said he still needed time to think about it and that he did not want to make the decision under pressure. He did, however, give me hints that he would come back to me. Saying that he needed six months, that I could come later to his hometown, that he would never find someone like me, that he felt like he ruins everything, etc. He once broke up with me before and after 2 1/2 months with no contact he did come back to me. He said some of the things he said during the first break up, like "he'd come back for me." I just don't know what to do. I do want to give him the benefit of the doubt because I know how tough LDR can be....it was just as hard on me as it was him. I just love him so much and know that he is the love of my life. I just keep wondering if he'll come back again or not. I have noticed that he hasn't untagged any of the photos we're in together on Facebook, which makes me believe he isn't really dating anyone else, because who would allow that? I'm just so confused and don't know what to do. I shared everything with him, as he did with me. He was the first guy I introduced to my family and as was I with his. Do you think he's going through a quarter-life crisis? He did recently just start a new job, got a new apartment, and did tell me that he felt like everything would come at once for him. I just don't know what to do. I want to give him his space so he can really think about what he is doing. After all, he did say he felt like he was making a mistake, but couldn't help himself and he cried just as much as I did when breaking up. I'm not "waiting for him" in the sense that I'm literally waiting around my house for him to come back again, but I would like him to. I just don't want to move on completely with my life (move to another city) and him feel like I've moved on and that he shouldn't contact me because of the fact. What do you think I should do. I'm so confused.

[TaraMaiden]

Cut off all contact.

Quit being his yo-yo.

 

He's either in and committed, or out, but he can't keep bungee-throwing your heart around like that.

 

While I realise you have deep feelings for him, making things different may not make them better.

Your moving there would still leave you feeling as if you're walking on egg-shells....

 

I'm afraid that if he backs off - let him.

[EvansR]

Cut off all contact.

Quit being his yo-yo.

 

He's either in and committed, or out, but he can't keep bungee-throwing your heart around like that.

 

While I realise you have deep feelings for him, making things different may not make them better.

Your moving there would still leave you feeling as if you're walking on egg-shells....

 

I'm afraid that if he backs off - let him.

 

This ^

 

Live your life around YOU. If you allow yourself to be a doormat for him, he's gonna keep coming and going from your life and leave you with bad feelings every time.