jenn78 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 how do i not hold onto the what if factor. What if he decides in two, four or six months he made a mistake? I'm sure people are holding onto what if... how do i stop? What did you do? My ex says i'm going to be single for a while and do cool stuff and see where that takes me... my mind automatically asks.. "back to me?" Maybe this is how the dumpee feels.
agb Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 You'll stop holding on to it once you lose hope. It's normal to feel like this. It'll subside
mysterymissgreeneyes Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Focus on yourself and try to push them out of your mind. It will feel good to build yourself into a better person (be it through exercise, a new or old hobby, meeting new people, whatever) and then if they come back to you (seeing you are so happy without them) you will be in a healthier place to try again
AllTooWell Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 Think about it this way... Yeah, he might change his mind in 2, 6, 8 days/weeks/months/years But there is no 'what if' - you should be doing what you want and living your life REGARDLESS of what he is doing. And then if he comes around, you deal with it then. You should not think "what if he's going to come back, I should put my life on hold until he does" you should think "yes, there is a chance we could cross paths in the near future. Until then I am going to work on myself and become the best me I can be, so that I make ANY future relationship I have a bright and healthy one!"
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