Sarabi Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I settled when I married, and had a lot of lofty ideas about love conquering all and what I was "supposed" to care about and be doing in a relationship, even though I wasn't the most attracted to her physically, intellectually, etc. Was with her for almost ten years, and struggled for much of it. I settled because I didn't know much about relationships going into it, and neither did she. We weren't compatible in several respects, and we weren't yet mature enough to realize there would be serious issues for us longterm. Your post reminds me of someone. I was having a conversation with a friend one day who told me he "settled even though it wasn't really what I wanted"...even now he mentions that his father warned him about the tyoe of woman he eventually married but he wouldn't listen. He even said that if he could go back in time from what he knows now he would not be with her I don't particularly think these are nice things to say but maybe he was being melodramatic... somehow I beg to differ...if its not really what you want then why stay?
hoping2heal Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 So this question is for people in long term relationships - have you settled? No way but if I say anything more on that I will give some people a toothache.
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