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I have some questions. Just curious to see if anyone else has, or is, experiencing this.

 

I met my boyfriend a year ago. Things have been good. We were both married but getting divorces.

 

Mine was proceeding faster. He said he had to be nice to his ex wife or she wouldn't let him see their son. Now, everytime they got into an argument he always managed to get to see their son.?? So, I did something I should not have done - I read his email and there was a message to her from him saying she needed to talk to him so they could have a close relationship. What the heck is that all about? He came up with this story about how he has to be nice. Well I think there is being nice and polite and then there is going a bit overboard. Maybe not being over the relationship. Supposedly the divorce was his idea. Word has it she was pretty mean to him.

 

So after this I have felt like I can't really trust him. You see we had this agreement to talk to each other about things but yet he didn't come to me and tell me how nice he felt he had to be in order to see his son. I feel like if that was all it was then he could have talked to me about it. So maybe that isn't all there is?

 

We have been living together for the past few months and I have seen more of him than I think I want to. Things have changed, as they often do. But the frustrating part is he has changed when it was him saying he didn't want things to change. He used to say we had to make time for each other no matter how busy we got, yet he doesn't have time to send me quick little love emails or text messages like we used to do.

 

I'm not mean to him, all I ask for is honesty. I've been paying all the bills - he helps with groceries sometimes and has paid the electric bill for the past two months. He said he would help around the house a lot, but really doesn't.

 

I am beginning to feel like an idiot. Does anyone agree with me?

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Why are you paying all the bills? Is he not working?

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Originally posted by maybeshouldstaysingl

he doesn't have time to send me quick little love emails or text messages like we used to do.

 

Of course he doesn't. He's too busy writing the ex emails.

 

You're basically involved with an attached man it sounds like. Make him detach from her or you detach from him. She's his ex...a.k.a. previous, past, over, done with. He's playing the two of you.

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