maestrok Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Do you guys focus on present moment or near/long term futures when making decision as to sustaining and developing relationship? Basically would you continue seeing someone because you like the person right now, even if you probably won't marry him because he is not exactly what you want in a husband?
Philosoraptor Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Sure, there is nothing wrong with dating. I just wouldn't have an exclusive relationship unless I saw some long term potential.
Emilia Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Basically would you continue seeing someone because you like the person right now, even if you probably won't marry him because he is not exactly what you want in a husband? I'm not looking to get married but I am looking for a long term relationship so I don't proceed with anyone beyond a certain point unless I see LTR potential.
Balzac Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I believe many people factor in age, stage of life, cohort at the time. I mean if one is in graduate school, preparing to relocate versus been in career for 5 years -very different stability factors.
Author maestrok Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 I'm not looking to get married but I am looking for a long term relationship so I don't proceed with anyone beyond a certain point unless I see LTR potential. I am not looking to get married but why be in a LTR if it is not someone you would eventually marry with?
Author maestrok Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 Sure, there is nothing wrong with dating. I just wouldn't have an exclusive relationship unless I saw some long term potential. I mean you get attached as you spend more time together so if you are going to break up eventually, shouldn't you cut your loss short by breaking up asap?
Emilia Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I am not looking to get married but why be in a LTR if it is not someone you would eventually marry with? Because I want someone's love and return it with mine. Don't see what a piece of paper has to do with it. I'm not looking to lock him in.
Philosoraptor Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I mean you get attached as you spend more time together so if you are going to break up eventually, shouldn't you cut your loss short by breaking up asap? And who knows if extended time with the person will show long term qualities that were not on the surface?
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