irc333 Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Question, was I already FZ'd? Woman I had been chatting with on POF we had been going at it pretty well and the like. She has a great smile (in her pictures), a Christian lady, and indeed willing to meet with me, because I asked. APparently we also have a geeky side and like to attend conventions (not many single women over 40 that can say that, lol) Anyhow, she said she'd like to meet and even if we don't "click" , I would still love to talk to you!" And I'm I thinking too much into this, or has she already FZ'ed me before even meeting me in person? Do I need to get my "flirt" on while I'm there?
sillyanswer Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 So long as she knows that it's a date then ignore it for now. 1
sdraw108 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Anyhow, she said she'd like to meet and even if we don't "click" , I would still love to talk to you!" And I'm I thinking too much into this, or has she already FZ'ed me before even meeting me in person? She's saying she likes you, but she doesn't know if there's going to be romantic chemistry because you haven't met yet, and if there isn't, she would like to be friends anyway because you have things in common. Believe it or not, some people like making friends in addition to dating! I've made two good friends from dating and I've known both for 6+ years. I have exactly the same attitude this girl does. 1
dasein Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 This is a common tossoff comment from inexperienced OLDers. Wouldn't put any stock in it. Just meet as soon as possible, let the chips fall where they may, and these kinds of things won't pop up in the future. As a man doing OLD, your objective should be to meet responsive women face to face quickly. 1
Author irc333 Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 She's saying she likes you, but she doesn't know if there's going to be romantic chemistry because you haven't met yet, and if there isn't, she would like to be friends anyway because you have things in common. Believe it or not, some people like making friends in addition to dating! I've made two good friends from dating and I've known both for 6+ years. I have exactly the same attitude this girl does. Meh, it all depends I guess....most men aren't good at being JUST friends with women...esp. the older we get...we aren't getting younger and we like that romantic intimacy with a woman we are into. I've known most men my age to maintain that "distance" between the women they asked out where it wasn't mutual.
phineas Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 As long as she agrees to meet, doesn't flake, and you believe her pics are up to date go for it.
sdraw108 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Meh, it all depends I guess....most men aren't good at being JUST friends with women...esp. the older we get...we aren't getting younger and we like that romantic intimacy with a woman we are into. I find this attitude extremely weird. I'm a guy, and I appreciate my female friends just as much as my male friends. I'd say being unable to think of women in any terms other than romantic intimacy is a sign of immaturity, and NOT something that should get harder as you age.
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