Diamondawg Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Hi folks, this is my first time ever posting in a relationship forum, so if my etiquette is bad, i do apologize. I was with my partner for 4 years, we had good times and bad times like everyone else. He is 11 years older than me, i have 2 children. He is a good man, but can become very detached from the world, i feel he suffers from a bit of depression, this shows in his home. I know a lot of me are not very good home keepers, but his can get down right messy, and he seems reluctant most of the time to do anything about it. He doesn't communicate very well either, its like pulling teeth most of the time, which is very frustrating for me, especially when there are problems in our relationship which need discussing. He perused me in the beginning, fell in love with me first, he bent over backwards to get me. I feel this period didn't last very long, when he got me, he stopped trying. I fell for him big time, i became insecure and needy, he was very insecure and jealous. Basically on reflection I know where we went wrong, and I really would like a chance to resolve these issues and start over with him. He ended our relationship in January this year. He told me i should move on and find someone better blah blah blah. So i started to date a guy, i wasn't over my partner, and in hine sight, it wasn't the best thing to do. Once he found out i was dating, he started to try and win me back, i gave in very quickly and we started where we left off, nothing resolved! Then he would give me a really hard time for dating, he seemed very angry about it, and this caused lots of fights. I started to distance myself from him at times, i would go out partying with friends, all night! I guess i was just trying to forget my problems with him, though this didn't work as much of a distraction, he would accuse me of sleeping around, which i never did. I told him if he would take me out, then i wouldn't be out partying with friends, but we stopped going out together a long time ago. Anyhoo, he finished with me 2 weeks ago, i did cry and plead and done the things your not supposed to do on that day, but once i left his company i did not contact him for over a week. I felt we both need a bit of space to find our bearings again. We have been in steady contact for the last week or so, he came and took me shopping, he asked if i wanted to go for a bite to eat, i declined and said i had plans, which i did. Ive had a few random drunk texts from him that don't really make much sense. Last night we were flirting through texts and i sent him one today that was quite flirty and he replied straight away with the same theme. I'm confused now, is he still interested in me or is he just toying with me. I love the bones of this man. I know where i went wrong and I'm fixing these issues i have with myself, but I'm not sure if he is capable of fixing his, i hope so. any advice would be very much appreciated, so sorry this so long winded lol. thanx for reading
blotter Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Doesn't all this bull$hit distract you from your kids? Think about all the time you wasted with this back and forth, all of it could have been spent with your kids. Sounds like your priorities are fawked.
Author Diamondawg Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 i understand why you would think that but my children are well looked after, than for the concern!
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