fiftyofsomethin Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Hey guys, So I recently scored my first (real) kiss. *fist pump*. However, that fist pump may be a bit premature. I actually had never truly kiss someone before. I've never made out with a girl before. I was not entirely sure of the logistics of it to be honest. It was a bit awkward afterwards because I knew I wasn't quite doing something right. Neither of us had actually made out with someone before so we were both noobies. However, I could tell she didn't probably enjoy it as much as I'd have liked her to. We both told each other we want to sort of practice with each other because well nobody wants to be bad at kissing. And just for a bit of a background on this girl, she is one of the most down-to-earth and philosophical girl I've probably met. She just has her head on straight. I've had extensive talks with her on every subject possible. We both love the idea of self-improvement, personal growth, just loving yourself and being happy. I know that sounds really hippy-ish but whatever. I can honestly say that I am probably happier than I've been in a very long time. But still, the question of dealing with this kiss. I sort of asked her after the kiss "on a scale of 1-10 how bad was that kiss?" and she of course was polite and said "it was alright" But I mean, come on. I know she's just being polite there. I want to still be able to "work on practicing" my kissing with her. But how do I exactly deal with this. I feel like she may be turned off to the idea now after that first try, but I could just be reading too much into it. What do you guys think? I really always appreciate your input! I know this sounds like a pretty stupid question, but hey, I want to make sure she is as comfortable as possible while still trying to get myself better at this. 2
sillyanswer Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Hey guys, So I recently scored my first (real) kiss. *fist pump*. Congratulations! I'm curious - how old are you?
Phantom888 Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 First kiss is always awkward! I kissed a girl for the first time when I was 17. I was so bad at it. Kinda funny in retrospect. This is one of those things that you can actually improve with practice. I dare to say I am an AWESOME kisser now. Of all the dates I have been on since my divorce, all the ladies have complimented on my kiss....as in 100%. So don't be discouraged. Kiss as many girls as you can. Seriously this is a skill that is literally priceless, and can turn an uninterested girl to fall for you. Happened to me several times! 2
dasein Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 (edited) OK with kissing, 1. you want to establish where her mouth is, and this is not as stupid as it sounds, because we don't normally do things with people face to face without help of the eyes. To do this, don't try to open your mouth and hit both her lips with it, but partially open your lips, flare them just slightly, and find her upper lip in this fashion. Do this by moving to a plane between you and her, and letting her move to that plane. Think of it as your side of a fence and hers, don't press over her fence, let her contribute and respond. Start the kiss very gently on her upper lip, caress it a little with your lips, before you gradually tilt your head slightly to the side and open your mouth a bit more. Adjust your lips and motion to hers with very very light contact at first, even pulling back a bit to create a bit of a "suction" and allow her to respond by moving her head slightly towards yours. This allows her to gauge your position and motion as well. It also allows things to build for a few seconds before going into a full kiss. 2. What your hands are doing is almost as important as your lips. Never pull a woman to you forcefully until you have done lots of kissing with her and to vary things. Never lock your hand around the back of her neck rigidly while kissing. Slight caress on the side of the face and hair is good, as is stroking her arm, no pulling her in at the waist until you have lots of practice. No groping around at her breasts or ass on early kisses, unless she puts your hands there. When its time for more contact, withdraw ever so slightly and let her pull you in or move into you, then you can respond in kind. 3. Hygeine- get in the habit of rigorously brushing your tongue and gums. Floss lots. Don't kiss after a meal until you have been to the bathroom and brushed, flossed, used mouthwash. Before you kiss, swallow all the stray saliva out of your mouth and wet your lips lightly with your tongue.If the kissing gets sloppy and too juicy, time for a break, if only a short one. 4. Tongue - Alternate lip contact with flicking your tongue out on her lips, flick slowly not like a snake, not press or lick. lightly at first then around the lips more. If she is ready for your tongue in her mouth, she may moan a little, open her lips a little wider, or even start flicking her tongue around your mouth. The progress of the tongue into the mouth in early kissing is measured in millimeters, go a little further, withdraw some, little further, withdraw, tease her a little with the tip of your tongue. Use a "stiff" tongue, never a "floppy tongue," no lapping or licking in her mouth, more slow, gentle probing and rubbing with the stiff tongue. Learn these raw basics and you will kiss better than lots of people. Get back to us when you want 102. Edited July 25, 2013 by dasein
Author fiftyofsomethin Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 Congratulations! I'm curious - how old are you? I am 18 (nearly 19), old sport. First kiss is always awkward! I kissed a girl for the first time when I was 17. I was so bad at it. Kinda funny in retrospect. This is one of those things that you can actually improve with practice. I dare to say I am an AWESOME kisser now. Of all the dates I have been on since my divorce, all the ladies have complimented on my kiss....as in 100%. So don't be discouraged. Kiss as many girls as you can. Seriously this is a skill that is literally priceless, and can turn an uninterested girl to fall for you. Happened to me several times! Thanks for sharing! Haha I hope to get to your level! OK with kissing, 1. you want to establish where her mouth is, and this is not as stupid as it sounds, because we don't normally do things with people face to face without help of the eyes. To do this, don't try to open your mouth and hit both her lips with it, but partially open your lips, flare them just slightly, and find her upper lip in this fashion. Do this by moving to a plane between you and her, and letting her move to that plane. Think of it as your side of a fence and hers, don't press over her fence, let her contribute and respond. Start the kiss very gently on her upper lip, caress it a little with your lips, before you gradually tilt your head slightly to the side and open your mouth a bit more. Adjust your lips and motion to hers with very very light contact at first, even pulling back a bit to create a bit of a "suction" and allow her to respond by moving her head slightly towards yours. This allows her to gauge your position and motion as well. It also allows things to build for a few seconds before going into a full kiss. 2. What your hands are doing is almost as important as your lips. Never pull a woman to you forcefully until you have done lots of kissing with her and to vary things. Never lock your hand around the back of her neck rigidly while kissing. Slight caress on the side of the face and hair is good, as is stroking her arm, no pulling her in at the waist until you have lots of practice. No groping around at her breasts or ass on early kisses, unless she puts your hands there. When its time for more contact, withdraw ever so slightly and let her pull you in or move into you, then you can respond in kind. 3. Hygeine- get in the habit of rigorously brushing your tongue and gums. Floss lots. Don't kiss after a meal until you have been to the bathroom and brushed, flossed, used mouthwash. Before you kiss, swallow all the stray saliva out of your mouth and wet your lips lightly with your tongue.If the kissing gets sloppy and too juicy, time for a break, if only a short one. 4. Tongue - Alternate lip contact with flicking your tongue out on her lips, flick slowly not like a snake, not press or lick. lightly at first then around the lips more. If she is ready for your tongue in her mouth, she may moan a little, open her lips a little wider, or even start flicking her tongue around your mouth. The progress of the tongue into the mouth in early kissing is measured in millimeters, go a little further, withdraw some, little further, withdraw, tease her a little with the tip of your tongue. Use a "stiff" tongue, never a "floppy tongue," no lapping or licking in her mouth, more slow, gentle probing and rubbing with the stiff tongue. Learn these raw basics and you will kiss better than lots of people. Get back to us when you want 102. Awesome, Imma put these in practice ASAP! Sorry but - cutest post on LS in ages. Hey now, what can you expect from a guy as cute as me? ****in' adorable. But really, I take that as a compliment, thanks.
dasein Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 One thing I forgot, don't be in a rush to get your lips on hers. Kiss her with your eyes before moving into the "plane" between you. Smile a little. Tell her with your eyes, "I'm about to kiss you and it's gonna be incredible," a little devilish look. Look into her eyes, dart them away for a split second, to her forehead, not diagonally down or up though, then right back into her eyes. She knows you are going to kiss her, you know it, build on that anticipation before going in. You will do great with your attitude. Good luck. 1
sillyanswer Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I am 18 (nearly 19), old sport. Cool. Just go with the flow. If it's a bit fumbly the first few times then don't worry about it. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 This isn't a big deal, I've had some women in my teenage years ambush "surprise" kiss me and then start trying to devour my face off...I was like wtf man, my face was all wet and slobbery like I just ate out the girl from "Precious". I had to start controlling the tempo, kind of like holding a dog at bay that's trying to lick your face off (assuming you're not into that sort of thing), then you control the rhythm of the kiss, especially the lips more so than the tongue, then you can move onto the frenchie but teens tend to do that wide mouthed sideways thing like If they're two Hippos in the wild fighting for dominance of a knee deep pond...take your time and learn how to make it flow so you're on the same wave length, then it's just a matter of kissing skill I suppose you could say and chemistry that will impact the kiss...some people you kiss better with than others, for me generally kissing is an extremely important skill so you should shrug this off and keep tying...but feel more than think about it. 1
therhythm Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Sorry but - cutest post on LS in ages. Seconded !!! Really cute! OP- You will get better at it... the fact that you are willing to do so is already a very big plus... I wish you lots of fun getting better at kissing :bunny: 2
Author fiftyofsomethin Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Seconded !!! Really cute! OP- You will get better at it... the fact that you are willing to do so is already a very big plus... I wish you lots of fun getting better at kissing :bunny: 'preciate it, sista! I most certainly will keep trying!
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