averis Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 Im recently in the stage of no contact with my ex girlf, if anyone read my previous thread you will understand that it was a violent and very volatile relationship, anyways shes now with someone else (got with him after a couple of weeks!) so my attitude is, right, time to move on! its been a couple of months since we split but only a week since we last spoke! but im feeling better day by day, My question is (and i need honest replies) if i dont contact her will she contact me? I know she loved me alot and we went through so much i dont understand how she cant? I realise shes moved on and personally i dont know wether she still thinks about me, or wether she will get in contact, i know i shouldnt hope, that if i dont contact then she will, i realise that i should use this time to get over her, which im focusing on, but i just really need to know, will she ring me??? I prob wouldnt get back with her but i just wanna know I need answers, Cheers people, Averis
fredrolin Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 When you said you were in NC, I figured you were in North Carolina.
Author averis Posted October 28, 2004 Author Posted October 28, 2004 lol, no, i meant no contact! Hard work this no contact thing is, but like i said its getting better, Cheers,
Scott S Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 Reading your other thread, I would question why you would WANT to be in a relationship with her. From what I read, she seems volatile to the point of being dangerous. It is difficult to predict whether she will call you, though. I don't know her, and I don't know how she is feeling about being apart from you. If I were in your situation, I would hope that she would not attempt to contact me again.
Author averis Posted October 28, 2004 Author Posted October 28, 2004 SCOTS I know exactly were youre coming from mate, the thing is im debating to myself wether this feeling that ive got is because ive lost the relationship (and i know it sounds stupid but i think I still love her) or wether ive got this feeling bcause shes with someone else and am i just hurt because i didnt know her at all like i thought i did, you always want wat u cant have! but like u said if she did ring me would i really want to get back with her? im trying to think of all her negatives and move on but i just dont know i spose i would like to speak to her coz i miss her voice, and she was stunning which makes it worse, i spose i am hoping she rings me (but I know its wrong!!! I should use this time to move on!) At the end of the day i doubt she will, shes with someone else and shes moving on, but that just makes me think more, anyway, Cheers scot, Averis
Scott S Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 Originally posted by averis At the end of the day i doubt she will, shes with someone else and shes moving on, but that just makes me think more, anyway If she's moved on, you should move on yourself, and count yourself as lucky as well. If this situation were reversed (that is, a woman in a relationship with a man of the temperment & personality you describe), I would wager that the unanimous advice would be to get out of the relationship & run for your life.
faux Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 If your relationship with this woman was so bad, why do you want to know if she thinks of you, cares for you, and why would you want her to contact you? I cannot answer your question, but I can tell you that the whole "no contact" thing is not some kind of a game, if you ever think of taking it that way. Not talking to exes is supposed to allow one time to heal on ones own, to recover and get used to being independent again. The only way you will know if your ex contacts you or is thinking about you is if she contacts you and says something.
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