Wasted Youth Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 been 3 month since me and my ex last spoke. I feel like a different person since the start of NC. I thought it wouldn't get any better but it has, and now I genuniely feel happier and better. But for some reason, I feel like I want to reach out to my ex and see what happens, I'm not looking for us to get back together. Just want to see if we are okay.
Toddbt12y1 Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 You will upset the balance of your continual progress via contacting your ex. You needn't worry how she(we), is. This happens. We feel better, and like we have moved on; then, some silly thought comes to mind...to contact them. Then you find something worse. In short: keep maintaining N/C. Keep feeling great. Progress forward. Use the positive energies you now have developed ..put it into finding someone else.
Zahara Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 When I felt completely fine with breaking contact with an ex, I just did it. Didn't put much thought into it because it wasn't a big deal, since we parted ways amicably and I knew whatever the outcome it would not affect me. You created a profile, on a public forum just to ask this question. A simple gesture. Too much analysing. If I were you, hit your 6 month mark. If breaking contact doesn't play on your mind that much, then I would say go ahead.
Author Wasted Youth Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 I guess I am not ready if I feel like I have to question the decision. Thanks guys
LME Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I think you should wait. don't rush it i rushed to meet up with my ex 5 weeks after our breakup. and yeah it helped me get closure and i don't regret it but it was honestly pretty pointless
TaraMaiden Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I guess I am not ready if I feel like I have to question the decision. Thanks guys By the way: Your signature link goes - nowhere.
Author Wasted Youth Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 By the way: Your signature link goes - nowhere. oops, changed it now so it should work. thanks for pointing it out.
may_girl Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Don't give your ex the ego boost of contacting them! Remain mysterious and they will always wonder about you.
may_girl Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 And also - it is your ex's responsibility to contact you. The dumper should always reach out, if anyone.
petall Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Also consider the possibility of your ex giving a less than friendly reception. That sort of confidence setback would only make you go back to feeling crap all over again. So no, NC.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 If you are referring to you and your ex as "we", you aren't ready. 1
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