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Montana 1968

I have just done 9 days "No Contact" but i really want to message him !!!! The urge is awful tonight.

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Nine days isn't long enough. Not nearly. You have to endure the pain for awhile longer, I'm afraid.

 

But the night is always darkest before the dawn. You'll never be the same, for better or worse, but things will get easier either way.

 

Down the road you may reconnect, but I sincerely doubt that time is now.

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Thank you, I'm not having a good day. x

 

And I wouldn't dare expect you to.

 

I can assure you that most everyone here can relate to your predicament on a plethora of levels. Once more of them get off work and school, they'll be here to give you better advice than I can offer.

 

Whenever you feel weak, just talk to people on here. Kindred spirits will keep you strong if you let them.

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Try to make it to day 10! Baby steps....

 

I try to tell myself to keep off the emotional roller coaster

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eachcomingnight

Do you have a journal? I carried a notebook around for the first couple of weeks and wrote in it. First it was what I wanted to say to him, and then I stopped writing "to" him and started just writing about myself, and eventually I didn't need to write anymore. :)

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i know how that feels, i desperately want to message her i always wait for her to text me even though i want to keep NC so bad i can't help but want her to text me i'm only on day 4 keep your head up keep pushing forward and keep distracting yourself r itll get easier and easier as time passes, todays been a bad day for me too i keep thinking about her and it gives me anxiety it makes my head feel light blah i just hate the feeling but i know i can do it and so can you.

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Delilah1623

I want to contact my ex today too )= 4 days NC. 6 days since the break up. I am going to try writing in my journal...

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I'm 3 months NC the urge is there everyday. Know nothing good can come of it . She knows I love her even as she threw me out after 5 years. If she wanted me she would reach out and she hasn't , not even once .

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I quit smoking 3 months ago.

 

Still get cravings.

 

As enjoyable as smoking is. Focus on how much better life is without it.

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pianomanwoman

Don't do it..youll be sorry you did. Im sure of it. Really think about it. How many people go out with the ex again and it worked out? None. You broke up for a reason. Belive me. Hope this helps. Ive been there. There are so many attactive loving good people out there just looking for you. If you keep this nonsense up..they are not going to be able to find you.

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Don't do it! You have to stay strong and fight off those urges to contact your ex. I had the same feeling 2 days ago while sitting at the park. Luckily I was texting with a friend of mine on the phone. I told her that I wanted to text my ex. She told me NO! NOT TO DO IT!

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Montana 1968

WE CAN DO THIS MY TOGETHER MY FELLOW HEARTBROKEN BUDDIES. WE DESERVE TO BE LOVED BY SOMEONE WHO APPRECIATES US. Sorry for shouting I'm still angry about being dumped by a lying, messed up, heartless scumbag. Phew, I feel better after that. :o

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RaidDolEm78

Ugh...im two months today into my breakup and I have the urge this very minute to text him.....as he "promised" a friendship with me (no attempt on his part) plus I still crave answers that only he can give me as to what happened...so stupid I know.....I feel like I wont be able to move on staying this way, but maybe I'm just holding on to false hope.....I need clarity and I dont know how to get it

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