Imported Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Guys with options don't chase. They don't need to. I am not a girl. As many options as I might have at any given day, week, month...whatever, the girl that I want might not be the one that actually "chases" or tries beyond just making it apparent that she is interested and the ball is in my court.
Imported Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 That's a poor response, a backhanded comment because you disagree with him. He is correct, btw. I find that if a girl is interested, you don't really have to chase. If you have to consciously decide to chase the girl, then she is not interested. What is meant by "chase"? I see interest from women. I go for the one I want, talk with her, ask her out and generally she says yes. The way seems to be paved. That is my idea of "chase". If she acts anything other than agreeable/interested/happy to have me coming up to her, than I assume that I was mistaken and move on. I will go along with a front for a little while, but I better be able to recognize it as her still feeling me out. I don't really like women coming up to me themselves and try to discourage that.
Sidz Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I'm with a girl right now who really chased me. It's kind of new to me because I tend to do the chasing. I've moved more slowly than she would have had I reciprocated her feelings in the same degree from day one. At first I assumed that I was just not as in to her as she was me but enjoyed her company because she's smart, passionate and cute. However, she's won me over and I'm progressively more smitten with her. It's weird because I hadn't expected to love her like I do or to have wanted more of her for this long. Very exciting.
tbf Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 It's not. I know that would be more convenient to explain but that was the furthest thing from my mind when I made that post. Also, I'm not a cream of the crop guy like SCD referenced earlier but I have enough options that I don't need to chase and don't find the concept of chasing appealing. I have a look that the women I am naturally attracted to usually seek out or make it obvious they are interested. It works. I don't question it and certainly don't care to change it. That's not to say I won't make introductions because I will. It's just to say that I don't need to chase women around town to win their affection or attention like it's some coveted prize. The game playing there bores me. Does that make sense at all?But this is you and you alone. My experiences surrounding cream of the crop men is that when they're really into you, they'll pursue their interests. This ability is why they're cream of the crop men because it's a translation of confident life skills of getting what they want. This doesn't mean that all men or even all cream of the crop men need to or do pursue, it means that there are variances where your perception is focused on you. I find that if a girl is interested, you don't really have to chase. If you have to consciously decide to chase the girl, then she is not interested.Define chase. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Hi everyone, adding to my previous question what do you think? When a men does not chase a woman does he not like her enough? Or are their other reasons why he is not chasing although he gives a phonenumber by himself and also starts to talk online.... Are there men here on this forum who van answers the question if a men really has to go after a woman and call her, ask her out and so on.... Quality men chase. Men who have something to offer chase. It's a biological/evolutionary thing. Men who don't pursue are usually the ones with bad genes or are very timid or not real men, or in some cases just aren't interested. So, it's best for women not to go after men. If a man pursues you, he's worth dating. If he doesn't, well, you know the rest.
tbf Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I hesitate to pin everything on biology. But testosterone levels do factually impact on risk tolerance levels. 1
GravityMan Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 This thread just indicates to me that "chase" is a poor and nebulous word within the context of dating and attraction.
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I hesitate to pin everything on biology. But testosterone levels do factually impact on risk tolerance levels. I think testosterone has something to do with it yes. But, as a guy with high testosterone levels who is also often risk averse, I have to wonder how high significant the impact really is.
TheGuard13 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I don't like the word "chase". Approach, pursue, sure. "Chase" implies something else entirely, I think.
tbf Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I think testosterone has something to do with it yes. But, as a guy with high testosterone levels who is also often risk averse, I have to wonder how high significant the impact really is.There's a synergy between testosterone and cortisone levels. I don't have sufficient expertise to even suggest the potential impacts. 1
GorillaTheater Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Back in the day, I didn't mind chasing. And being turned down equalled about two minutes of chagrin but nothing more. But I sure wasn't going to chase for long without some interest being displayed by the chasee. I'd simply cast my predatory gaze elsewhere. Thing is, the rules don't, or shouldn't, change after marriage. Never stop pursuing your wife.
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