audiojunky Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 I'll try to make this short and quick - My girlfriend and I moved in together. We decided on this place together after looking at several options. At the time it only took her a 1/2 hr to get to work.. like it does with me. During that time she was having job difficulties and I said to her, "If you are going to leave this job shouldn't we put finding a place on hold? What if your job is far away?" She constantly told me over and over that I was over reacting and that she would deal with the situation when she got there. Two and a half months later - her commute is a nightmare for her. She is constantly complaining that it takes her an hour or more to get home from work now. She really brings down my mood when she is so pissed off like this. I've given her the options and she still complains. I've told her that if we are going to solve this problem then she needs to make a choice about living here or moving. I've always made clear to her that I would find a new place with her. The problem now is that we have 10 months left on our lease. If we move closer to work for her it makes my commute turn into an hour or more. I made it very clear to her before she took her job that the traffic would be a problem and that she always reassured me that she would deal with it. I spent my whole summer off literally looking for this place. The rent is cheap. I did a lot of work to this place and we bought a lot of stuff just to make it look nice and live-able. Tonight she had the nerve to say to me that maybe I should look for a roomate for this place. I was pissed as hell. I would of never signed a lease or done all of this with her if she was so willing to easily give everything up. I guess the biggest disappointment is that I am starting to loose patience with her ability to think ahead into the future and avoid problems.. because it seems that she has an inability in adapting to situations and forseeing the consequences of her actions and how they relate to others. (the other, being me.)
hulavie Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 LOL..... i thought I recognized someone familiar in the way you describe yougf.... I feel your frustration. Biggest question....... is that just PMS? Is everything else okay at work, with family etc It looks to me like she's just grumbling but doesn't really mean it when she says she wants to shift out.... however you need to point it out to her that it's causing you stress. Get her to listen to how you feel about her constant complaining. 10 months will just pass by so fast. I'm surprised that next Monday is already November.
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