Sunny85 Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I met a very nice men on holiday 2 months ago. We spended several days together and he was very polite, friendly, taking care of me. Now we still have contact by chatting with eachother. So far we have not seen eachother anymore because either I had to work or either he was away to his family and it's kinda difficult cause we live 9 hours drive from eachother. At first he suggested coming to my house, but I was very busy that week so I suggested another date I could come to him. But then he asked me for going on holiday and I said: yes it would be great! But then days passed by and I didn't hear from him or his holiday plans. Then I suggested another date I could come to him but he did not respond to my question but instead asked me if I could call him. I did call him but he said he was at the hospital with a friend... That we could call after, but he didnt call me back. But on the phone he asked me if I was in his country already, cause he knows I was planning on going to his country with my friend and so myabe he thought I was going to his country anyway. I said that I was not there yet. But I am thinking about booking a ticket and just see were he lives... I will go for one week and book a hotel just to see if he will see me then and since he has been so unclear to me he can't hide for me anymore. Or is it a bad idea? I am a grown up woman so I can stay in a hotel and because I am so curious I want to know, I have his adress. Anyone advice, go or not go? Just seeking adventure or wait for him to really invite me out?
kassy Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 No don't go. He doesn't care about you. He is probably married. Go read the long distance relationship threads... They don't start out with one person not wanting to see the other. It was a holiday fling and the holiday is over. He is not worth your time thinking about and certainly not worth 'visiting'. Move on! 4
CherryT Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I agree. As someone who's in a LDR that's will be soon closing the distance... I'd NEVER go, especially if they were so unclear and not having plans to meet you. My SO came to see me first. We were both very excited; we also met on vacation. If someone's not going to confirm dates with you or help plan a visit, why would you waste your money? Even if you're rolling in dough, why would you waste your time? Would you want to be in a relationship with someone who makes no effort to see you? When you first meet someone that's when it's most "exciting" and where both people move a hundred miles a minute because they can't get enough of you. You would want to start a relationship with someone who, at the very least, wants to see you. 1
Zahara Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Stop chasing a man that is showing you lackluster interest. Be a grown woman. Book a holiday with your friend and enjoy yourself. Don't blow it trying to chase down a man that isn't making any effort to see you.
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