funkty dumpty Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Heya. I had a relatively long-lasting crush on a girl from work. There was definitely a mutual feeling for a least part of the time and there was chemistry. Things built up and I ended up letting her know how I felt. Unfortunately things went downhill from there - circumstances were not in our favour for various reasons, but I'm not kidding myself and hiding from the fact that she just wasn't into me as much as I was her. It took me a while to come to terms with this but I eventually got there. **** happens and the best you can do is move on. What I would like to know though, is how she (and girls in general) think about guys who've 'confessed themselves' up to them. How much does it mean to them? How often does it happen to relatively attractive, funny girls? I'm a fairly confident guy in general and spoke as such when I let her know. Does she respect me for having the guts to tell her how I felt? From a guy's point of view, any girl who says me she likes me gets an infinite amount of respect (I guess because it doesn't happen very often. Ha.). Even if I'm not attracted to them I will still like them on the basis that they like me. What do we reckon?
Philosoraptor Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 When you reveal your feelings to someone, whether you're male or female, they know they have the option of taking you up on the offer or not. Sometimes they are flattered, sometimes it doesn't mean a thing; but it means they have an option. It takes guts to open up and oftentime it's respected. If you're interested in someone then make it known. Worst you can do is get shot down. Someone saying no is just them being honest. At the very worst you'll be bummed but know not to waste any more time on this girl, and move on to crushing on someone else. 1
smile1983 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 It would mean a lot to me but if I did not feel the same way or was not in a position to give him what he wanted from a relationship, I would be hesitant. Perhaps she is not in a place in her life where she can take on a new relationship right now. She knows how you feel, let her go and if it is meant to be she'll come back to you when she's ready.
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