Girlfriend wants to experiment with me and another girl.... My god!

[Frylock]

Ok... Where to begin. After a long path of bumps and potholes, my girlfriend and I are back together, like seriously, and she claims that after all we've been through, she loves me more now than ever. She says she never wants to lose me, it came way too close last time, and she realized that she wants me to be part of her life for a long long time. She asked me to even move in for next semester. (Check my past posts if you care to know the hurdles that were conquered).

 

So anyway, it's been about two weeks, and I've kept a close eye to make sure she is for real about this and it's not just a flakey thing to keep from losing me, and all signs point to she is serious about it, and really does love me. I'm getting back to the point where I trust her when she says it.

 

Ok anyway... her and I are very social in bed about what feels good and what doesn't. We enjoy sex and strive to make it feel good for the other person. We try and time our orgasms to match and all that, and we aren't shy around eachother, just very comfortable sex. We have great sex, both of us admit to that. Right? Right.

 

So last night, she was really damn horny, and that whole bit, and she made a joke about having sex with me and another girl. I told her she jokes about that a lot, and basically, long story short, we got into this conversation about how she really does want to experiment like that. I told her the idea of me having sex with another girl kind of wierded me out, and I was surprised it didn't bother her too... but she told me... "Look, I know you love me, and you know I love you... you have to look at it as a sex toy type thing, another girl would be there to make sex feel even better for us. I know you aren't going run off with that other girl, and you know I won't either. You and I love eachother, and I don't see anything wrong with trying something like that out as long as we do it together, and share that experience." --- Wasn't those words exactly, but that was about what she said... basically explained how it was OK and that as long as we both were comfortable with and understood nothing would come of it, that there shouldn't be anything wrong with it. We also talked about how it is NOT ok for either of us to do something like that without the other person being there, and all that shady business.

 

She went on to to tell me about how all girls love cock, and all girls think about other girls, but rarely admit to it. And that she wanted to experience something like that, but really wanted to experience it with me. Um, so yeah... my girlfriend, who loves me, I am convinced that she does, wants to have sex with me and another girl. I was very shocked at learning this... but really it is kind of cool. Honestly the thought of it wierded me out, a lot, but the way she explained it, and reassured me that nothing bad would come as long as we both understood why it was OK... I dunno, it seems to make sense. She described it as just a tool for even better sex.

 

Should I fulfill every mans fantasy and try it out? Is this something I should worry about? I mean, do you think she can want to try this, and still really love me? From what I've seen, yes, she does love me, and still would love me, and honestly wants to share this experience with me... I need some opinions! Thanks for the help!

[Merin]

Damn!

 

Well you know, I've got to tell you there isn't any chance in Hell~O I would ever be down for my boyfriend wanting to be with another girl and me.. LOL Of course I still wouldn't be down for it if it was my boyfriend wanting it to be another guy and me.

 

We've always had amazing sex and chemistry.. open minded ect. However, I would draw the line at having someone else involved in something I view to be between he and I.. ONLY.

 

I dunno Fry.. I would let one of my girls borrow my clothes, my car, money.. but my man? Hell No!

 

Does it mean she doesn't love you... I don't know what it means really... could be that she is just very curious.

 

[greenlove]

Hi Frylock,

 

I have a story for you. I asked my boyfriend a couple of times in the beginning of our relationship to do this. I said I wanted to experiment with other guys/girls. I didn't care, I just wanted to try it out and experiment. I had asked him sometime before if he ever had a threesome and he replied yes, with 2 girls. That appealed to my interests….I thought I'll try everything once, at least that how I use to think.

 

I pushed him and pushed him to do it and he said he absolutely wouldn't do it b/c for one thing he loved me and didn’t want to share me with anyone and he mentioned how when he did that before with his ex she got jealous of the other girl even though they both agreed to it. Then he made me picture him actually going down on some girl and #$% that girl and how it would make me feel. He’s ex felt he was paying way to much attention to the other femal in bed and got jealous.

 

Just something to keep in mind Frylock.

I think you take a chance, by doing it.

[hulavie]

Well you know, I've got to tell you there isn't any chance in Hell~O I would ever be down for my boyfriend wanting to be with another girl and me.. LOL Of course I still wouldn't be down for it if it was my boyfriend wanting it to be another guy and me.

Ditto

 

In reading Frylock's reply, I got curious about something.....

 

What would be the appropriate ratio of attention if it really happens..... unless everyone involved gets soooooo horny and can't remember each others names even.... lol...

 

Guy 40% girlfriend 30% other girl 30% ?????

 

erm....

 

guy 40 % girlfriend 40% other girl 20% ??????

 

Just a thought.

[fredrolin]

my wife and I have talked about bringing another woman or man into our bed for sex. I also often fantasize about this.

 

We sometimes use dildos in bed to act as the "other man".

 

When we are horny if seems like a fun idea but after we cum, we come back to reality and realize it's a stupid idea.

 

If we did do a 3some and once everybody got off it might become an awkward situation.

 

What if I came first and the other guy didn't? Could I tolerate standing there with my limp dick watching my wife get this other guy off? Could my wife handle another chick riding me while she watched?

 

I believe group sex can only work if no emotions are involved.

[2KindKay]

I have to agree with the other posts, before you really decide to bring someone else into the relationship, you need to ask yourself if this is something you can really handle, a lot of feelings are involved between your girlfriend and yourself, what if jealousy does get in the way, is that something you can both get through. What if your girlfriend thinks you enjoyed the sex a bit to much with the other girl or vice versa. Weigh out the pro's and con's before you get to into this.

Good luck

[ThumbingMyWay]

Originally posted by fredrolin

my wife and I have talked about bringing another woman or man into our bed for sex. I also often fantasize about this.

 

We sometimes use dildos in bed to act as the "other man".

 

When we are horny if seems like a fun idea but after we cum, we come back to reality and realize it's a stupid idea.

 

If we did do a 3some and once everybody got off it might become an awkward situation.

 

What if I came first and the other guy didn't? Could I tolerate standing there with my limp dick watching my wife get this other guy off? Could my wife handle another chick riding me while she watched?

 

I believe group sex can only work if no emotions are involved.

 

 

thats exactly how my wife and I feel too. We talk big when we drink and get horny, but the next day when your clear headed, we both agree it aint gonna happen. (although its a very nice thought and would be alot of fun )

 

.....it just isnt in the cards for us right now. too many emos would be involved at this stage/state of our marriage......maybe some day, but I doubt it.

 

the other night when this subject came up again.... i told her to go buy a new dildo....I said, its kinda like something new and different to experience......and she said, yeah, and it wont talk back either...

[ThumbingMyWay]

Originally posted by 2KindKay

Weigh out the pro's and con's before you get to into this.

 

 

thats what we did, or have talked about a few times.

 

in our situ, there were alot more cons than pros. I think the only pros were: chance to experience sex with someone else and an orgasm.

 

and if ya think of all you could lose, just for those 2 things.......it aint worth it.

[Matilda]

Originally posted by Frylock

"Look, I know you love me, and you know I love you... you have to look at it as a sex toy type thing, another girl would be there to make sex feel even better for us.

 

This is where your girlfriend's logic is flawed. You wouldn't be bringing a "toy" into your sexual relationship, but a living, breathing human, who has emotions too. This other girl would not just exist "to make sex feel even better for" you. She would be a person in her own right. Who knows what kind of feelings she would have, and what reasons she would have for agreeing to the situation.

[fredrolin]

Originally posted by Matilda

This is where your girlfriend's logic is flawed. You wouldn't be bringing a "toy" into your sexual relationship, but a living, breathing human, who has emotions too. This other girl would not just exist "to make sex feel even better for" you. She would be a person in her own right. Who knows what kind of feelings she would have, and what reasons she would have for agreeing to the situation.

 

 

But if the other woman is a prostitute then she can be considered a toy. That could work.

[Jilly10340]

I think that in this early stage of "back togetherness" you shouldn't be thinking about that kind of stuff right now. If you really want to do it, I would say at least wait awhile.