ben1991 Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 hello guys and girls.. where shall I begin? I met this amazing girl, she had a bf but she had told a few friends of mine it was going to end very soon. Anyhow despite this we started sleeping with each other..It was fun but then like every other time people start to get attached (more me than her..). We both agreed around this point that we liked each other. From about 2 weeks in until I got to know her better I could tell she was being emotionally distant with me at times and the rest of the time it was like I was the only person who mattered. one time we were talking on the phone, she wanted to come and see me instead of her bf, who was expecting her. I did what I thought was right and told her to go see him. just recently she broke up with her bf but I knew she really liked him from the way she behaved. She phoned me in tears after while she was stood with him, insisting that everything was ok and to talk later. I thought yeah.. I know how I need to sit down, take walks and etc to think through things.. not really the same scale but at least I could understand partially. After this she told me, that she liked me and I'm a nice guy but she didn't want me to come and see her. I said I've been thinking the same thing that we should stop. She then messaged my friend, I was working and couldn't talk to her at the time, asking what I've been saying and told me to ring her. I did and she took the word "stop" as in stop everything between us I think. I reassured her that I liked her..etc and I just picked the wrong word really.. I don't want us to stop. After this conversation I was respecting her by giving her some space, I messaged her after a few days saying hey she took ages to message back hello( or what ever it was) then nothing else. so I thought yeah maybe talking is messing her feelings up left it another few days same thing said hi, just pushed me back saying she was cleaning and said nothing more. (she wasn't or was and stop very soon after) She doesn't text me, call me or message me back.. I'm getting really mixed messages from her before and after. Why would she panic and go to my friend when I said stop and she wanted time.. ohhh A thought just occurred... "why would she go to the effort of finding out what I have said to my friends, about stopping "us" when she couldn't get hold of me?" I think it shows that she does like me as in a guy she could date. Could it be that she was making sure I would stick around for longer while she deals? and talking to me is just making her feel more confused? should I give her more space and wait for her to talk to me? I don't want to push her away and make her think I did mean stop by ignoring her. I am just lost for how she feels towards me (I'm sure she is too) but because of this I have no idea how or what to do... Thanks for reading
Philosoraptor Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 First, she cheated with you on her boyfriend. That's a clear sign of what you're looking forward to if you ended up a relationship with this girl. She doesn't seem very emotionally mature and probably doesn't know how she feels about much right now. You can have fun with her, but I'd suggest not getting too attached as she doesn't seem to be stable enough for a long term respectful relationship.
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