Vinsanity1307 Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Ok This is going to sound like the most screwed up story but here goes. I am a 27 year old guy who was in a "relationship" with a 35 year old women with three kids and divorced twice. We started dating in 2008. Everything was good in the beginning, the sex was amazing (although nothing compared to the future with her sexually) and we got along. Then as time went on I learned she was still married (separated for about 1 year) and had not even filed for divorce yet.She told me she didnt have the money and whatnot. Anyways I ended meeting the kids 2 months into the relationship and they loved me twins that were 4 at the time and a 14 year old boy. As time went on I would bend over backwards for this girl from bringing the kids to school , to just taking them out to chuck e cheese. As time went on she was still in contact with a guy she slept with before dating me, and they were talking sexually through facebook. Then her recent ex husband was saying sexual stuff as well. From there it only got worse Although I couldnt prove anything i saw the messages on facebook of them just talking about it, as well as another guy I had no idea about. This girl had alot of health issues that I would stay by her side for operations and whatnot until recovery. So after about a year I was in love with her regardless of all the issues and we got engaged. I was doing everything and anything for her. About 6 months later she dumped me after bringing up her still talking with these guys. I begged and was heart broken. I tried talking to her she ended up running over my foot throwing me down stairs ext.... I eventually left her alone and about 10 days later she text me. We end up having sex and getting back together. As time went on she still was sketchy and*mean*towards me so I told her I didnt want to commit to her anymore. She was devastated. We continued to date but nothing official and I was going on dating websites which destroyed her and she would beg for me to stop and be her bf. I stopped going on the sites as we continued to "date" unless we had a big fight. Id do it topee*her off. For the next three years she turned into a wonderful person doing anything and everything for me. Even quit smoking for me after smoking for 15 years. I had the I dont care attitude but showed her the love here and there. About 2 months ago i decided enough was enough and would consider making a real go at the relationship seriously. I was nicer but not needy still had that i dont care attitude but ALOT nicer. We did beyond things you could imagine sexually(and things she was petrified to do in the beginning.) and were getting along really well .We went to Maine together 2 weeks ago and she was all over me as I was her. She had to leave maine cause she just started a new job and could only get 2 days off. So when I came back she dumped me about 2 days later. Said she is not in love with me and we hurt each other too much... I told her I was going to propose which I was I had a ring and everything but that didnt matter. I begged and pleaded and she was even smoking again. She threatened to call the police if I didnt leave. After a while I left. Said Id rather die then go through pain without her she said go ahead and kill yourself then. I wrote her one last text and nothing. It has been a week and a half with no contact and I really want her back. What should I do.?????? I ended up breaking no contact today I showed up at her house and tried talking...I quickly looked through her phone and saw she was texting a guy she use to screw right before dating me ....i acted cool and said I guess that's the nail in the coffin I told her I loved her and left....what do I do to get these visions out of my head of them being together? It is destroying me....and I want her back......
Philosoraptor Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 She is very unstable and this relationship is horribly toxic. If you want to picture something, picture the abuse she put you through. You should have knew very early on that she was not all there or reliable. Block her in every way possible and work on yourself. Find new hobbies, join a club, make new friends, and do things to make yourself happy.
KathyM Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 She's not relationship material, and there is nothing you can do to change that. She's not faithful, she's not respectful to you, and she's just full of drama and dysfunction. Surely you don't need this crap in your life and are not so codependent as you sound on here.
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