MissBee Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Hmm, I can't decide if I think the bear thing is cute or disturbing. I've decided! Along with him calling her his "little girl" and giving her a stuffed toy to keep her company when he's not around....CREEPY! 2
bentleychic Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Exclusivity is really our only rule aside from being totally up front with one another in all regards, including if we decide we're done/can't handle it any more. I don't call him when he's at home (have a few times, but rarely), but that was something that I choice so as not to raise red flags.
hippetyhop Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Exclusivity is really our only rule aside from being totally up front with one another in all regards, including if we decide we're done/can't handle it any more. I don't call him when he's at home (have a few times, but rarely), but that was something that I choice so as not to raise red flags. This appears to be a very common rule. As for the decide we're done, how often is that on the MM part? There was a time a few months ago the MM became very busy with his kids, etc. and couldn't see me as much. I understood that. I was fine with that..but once wifey became suspicious, I was less understanding and needed to get end it. I think he understood that why that time. I don't call him when he's at home (have a few times, but rarely), but that was something that I choice so as not to raise red flags.
bentleychic Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 This appears to be a very common rule. As for the decide we're done, how often is that on the MM part? I'm honestly not sure he'll ever decide we're done unless I give him an ultimatum (or she does). Which I'm not planning on at this point. He says he doesn't like to see me hurting and suggests maybe I should move on so I can find a guy that I deserve that is in a better situation (I'm curious how many MM use that line, btw), but that's the only time he's even hinted that maybe we should take a break.
Author Lady2163 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Bentley, I don't have the exclusivity rule with the married man I'm seeing. I have dated and had sex with other people (mainly single ex boyfriends) in the time we've been together. The one thing I did ask was that if he was going to have sex with other women, if he couldn't, wouldnt or didn't use a condom to tell me, so I'd have the option of whether or not to proceed with penetration (even though we use them, I'm still a bit sketchy when people are unsafe). Personally, I have the attitude if a man isn't going to give me a ring or live with me, I'm not going to agree to be exclusive. Give me a commitment.
bentleychic Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I have no desire to be with anyone other than him. If I did, I wouldn't be with him at all. Although a ring would be fab in time if it works out, it wouldn't really mean much with her still living in his house. Empty promises while he's still married and living under the same roof.
Author Lady2163 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I have no desire to be with anyone other than him. If I did, I wouldn't be with him at all. Although a ring would be fab in time if it works out, it wouldn't really mean much with her still living in his house. Empty promises while he's still married and living under the same roof. In my situation, if he tried to make it exclusive that would end it right there. Yours is different than mine and that is okay. I wanted to tell you, I do think you are posting in the right place, even though I am brand new here. Someone else mentioned something to the effect there has recently been a lot of betrayed spouses posting negativity here lately. They are vocal, but it isn't the multitudes you might feel. Put them on ignore and report their posts that are out of line. Don't try to reason with them, they are in a place miserable enough that they think it's okay to attack strangers online.
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