aisuru Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Background (with links) can be found here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/409063-breadcrumbs-we-knew-coming-right So yeah... I wrote here last week that I had a text from the ex previous Friday. He called me this past Friday night when I was packing to leave the next morning for my Vegas weekend (birthday weekend of celebration)... Talked for a bit, at which point, he boldly asked if I wanted to come over. And have sex. And I went over (he's 2 blocks from me). Not proud of it, but honestly, I was so unprepared mentally on how to respond to that type of request. Not something I had expected quite honestly. I know men love their sex, but, naively so apparently, I did not think he was like other guys. Never saw this coming. Nor my friends who I have shared this with. So a night of wild crazy sex. Found out he had in fact dated somebody for a month who is not interested in him now (surprise! which actually didn't bother me). He kept probing if I had dated others (told him I hadn't though I have). It was a long night... with little to no sleep... I will say this... This is dangerous territory to cross into. Yet, for me, in my situation, it provided a weird type of closure I was longing for. He is leaving town in 3 weeks for four months. Part of me wants to see him again in that time, part of me wants him to call me so I can ignore him, and part of me never wants to see or hear from him again (at least for a very long while). Long story short... I saw a side of him this night that was good and bad. It has allowed me to see his faults. Knocked him off his pedestal. And for that I am grateful... I wish I could say I'm strong enough to now go the formal NO CONTACT. I'm not sure I can say that. Part of me last night wanted to write him an ******* email telling him to **** off. Part of me hopes to hear from him. Part of me is just pissed I still care at this point. I am so not looking for advice so much as hoping to share my journey and my story. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Hmmm. Kind of surprised to read this from you... Oh well, it is what it is 1
sprucegoose Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 You shouldn't have break up sex with your ex. By doing so, you're telling him he can have you without any emotional ties. You think that gives you the upper hand but really you're just his play thing. Is that what you want him to think of you? 2
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