malxme Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 This is a very long story but I will try to cut it short. after 2 1/2 years, he left me, it was a very messy break up for me, there was another girl involved, just horrible in general. 3 months later he decides he wants to try again and I say only if he gets rid of 'the other girl', which he refuses. SO my answer is NO, we aren't getting back together. You'd think that would be simple, case closed. But he wont stop texting me. I've told him over and over "its her or me", and he wont get rid of her (something about being a loyal 'friend' or whatever), so I just keep telling him to leave me alone. Thing is I do still love him deeply (its been 8 months since he ended things), and he says he loves me too and that I'm amazing, I'm the love of his life, he's never going to be with anybody else blah blah blah. But I don't get it. We aren't together by HIS choice. But he wont let me go either. I ignore his texts for days, and he'll just keep texting, saying nice things about me, bringing up happy memories, just generally happy nice messages. And no I don't want to have to block him, I don't want to resort to that, he was my best friend for so long, I feel like I can be mature and not just remove him completely from my life. Its just that I've said to him over and over, that if he chooses her then I wont be in his life. That I have to let him go because he wont choose me. I just need time to learn to let go of all the feelings, and I've explained to him very carefully that it hurts me when he texts, because it brings back all the feelings I work SO hard to let go off. My main question is, what is he doing!? We live 3 hours apart, so he's not trying for a booty call or anything. I just really don't understand what it is he wants from me. He texts in all moods, not just if he's down. Most of the time he just texts to say hey, that he hopes my studies are going ok etc etc, nothing too deep and meaningful. So yeah, I just don't know why he keeps texting me, and I don't know what he wants from me? He knows I don't want to just be friends, that'd be far too hard for me. But when I ask him what he wants from me, he just can't answer. Thoughts?
It-is-what-it-is. Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Hi, so sorry you are having a bad time. I do think that you have tried to do this without blocking him but he will it respect your request for no contact. Blocking him is not immature, it is what you need to do to heal. You need to tell him (or send email -since you have been talking) and tell him that your relationship is over because you will not be in a relationship with three people. That you understand, because he has been very clear, that he refuses to put you first so you are moving on. You have are asking one last time that he respect you enough to let you go to make a life for yourself. Maybe someday, after some healing has occurred, maybe you can be friends, but that you will let him know. Then block him. Then go make that life with people who can value you.
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