Tuff Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 I need to know what to do my parents dont like my boyfriend and i dont know what to do. I dont know why they dont like him because hes really sweetand never done and thing wrong. I need help to know what to tell him or them. Can someone give me some advice? Later, Tuff
hulavie Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 LOL..... my parents have never approved of any guy I date....... reasons? * His nose is too big.... do you want your kids to have his nose * He doesnt earn much. That doctor down the road would be better * He's a democrat and his car is an ugly shade of purple ........... (duh! whatever! lol) and sadly ..... i've even had to face reasons regarding race and religion. I guess we all have our story to tell Possible reason why they are acting like that : * not ready to let their little munchkin leave home just yet. <shrug> * also quite true that 'they have eaten more salt' so maybe they sense something about him and assume that you are blinded by luuuuurve and don't see what they see * they truly truly dislike him To find out what is really going on, you will have to sit them down and open up.... Most important is how do YOU think they will react in the end? * They are in love. It's their life, let them be OR * No!!!! He's not gonna be my son-in-law.
JoL Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 Ahh Tuff, im living through the same thing, and have been for my entire life! My parents are obsessed with the idea of me marrying/dating someone of the same ethnic origin as myself.. I have never dated anyone from the same background ever. My boyfriend isnt the same background as me. They make a big fuss about it and dont approve at all. Unfortunately their social circle has the same ideas about their kids so they all walk around thinking its ok to be prejudiced... Go figure. My boyfriend hasnt made it any easier though, he wants me to tell my parents to get f***ed and do things to stand up to them that will potentially embarass them. My parents have a way of living life thats different and he cant understand, i try to respect that to an extent but live my life how i wish to at the same time. Actually, he has made it harder at times for me than my parents have come to think of it. Do you know why they dont like him though? have they given you a reason?
ImNuckinFutz Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 I too am wondering if they have told you why they don't like him? My daughter was dating a boy (she's in high school) I didn't like at all, I wasn't even sure myself at first why I didn't like him, just a feeling I got when I was around him, I did tell my daughter how I felt, but at the same time I treated him with respect when I did see him. I was afraid if I forbid her to see him it would push her closer to him. My fears turned out to be right and the kid was bad news, he started leaving bruises on her and was very controlling. Needless to say I did end up putting an end to that and he isn't even allowed around her now. which by the way, she still thanks me for. So I guess my advice to you would be to sit your parents down and ask them what it is they don't like, it could be something specific or it could be like hulavie said " * not ready to let their little munchkin leave home just yet. <shrug> Good luck!
Author Tuff Posted November 1, 2004 Author Posted November 1, 2004 They dont like him all that much because he has his licence and a nice truck and stuff he works and hes never done anything wrong to anyone. The only thing about him is hes really jelous about me being around abunch of guys. but what guy aint. But I love him and know one has any say so but me and him i guess. I do know one thing his family all 4 of his brothers his sister and parents all treat me like family. I wish my family would do the same w/ him.
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