Notry412 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 So I am dating this girl, I get off work and call her. She sends me to voice mail, then calls me back a few minutes later. Says she was texting someone and it was important so she sent me to voice mail then called me back. So I ask who she was texting out of curiosity, and she won't tell me just tells me someone. Not sure if im supposed to be jealous, and bother her about it and let it go, but it is kinda bothering me.
todreaminblue Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 sounds like a game to me .......if the girl in question doesnt tell you who it is and just says someone, there's normally a reason......deb 1
Author Notry412 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 Couple months we have been dating. As far as I know we are exclusive she says we are. I just feel like im being setup, like if I ask her or push it she will use it against me. It has been eating at me all day it happened last night. It was just the way it went down. Today I sent her a little text alluding it and she danced around it.
Author Notry412 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I kinda just want to be blunt about it, and if it's a issue then I know something is up. To me it should be no big deal, but if she gets mad at me it would seem she is hiding something.
aloneinaz Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 She's playing a game which is sad. Clearly, you asking who she was texting with indicated that you were curious and for her to give a vague or non-answer is BS. This should be a red flag to you. Your choices are to just ignore this or have a direct conversation about it and let her know game players get disqualified with you quickly. My ex GF would do text BS as well. She'd ignore me when she knew I need to talk to her, wouldn't reply in a timely manner and other stupid ****. She's an ex for a reason.
Author Notry412 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 Yea she just told me "I called you right back tho" instead of answering the question about who it was. I'm usually pretty secure, but this girl tends to make me feel insecure. When we hang out it's great, but when we aren't together she does tend to play little games. I always answer the phone even if i'm texting that is where it gets weird to me, now she has me insecure and thinking about it a lot. Which is why I think I need to say something, but I almost know its going to lead to drama. I just wonder what some others think, should I let it go, or should I confront even if it might get ugly?
aloneinaz Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Yea she just told me "I called you right back tho" instead of answering the question about who it was. I'm usually pretty secure, but this girl tends to make me feel insecure. When we hang out it's great, but when we aren't together she does tend to play little games. I always answer the phone even if i'm texting that is where it gets weird to me, now she has me insecure and thinking about it a lot. Which is why I think I need to say something, but I almost know its going to lead to drama. I just wonder what some others think, should I let it go, or should I confront even if it might get ugly? Again, RED flags are waving. If you're not sure if your exclusive, you need to have that chat first but then lead to the whole incident and your feeling like a game was being played. The fact that you're insecure or she's making you feel insecure is another red flag. At the beginning, when you're really into each other, you want a girl that makes you KNOW you're the only one, not a girl that constantly keeps you off guard or on wobbly knees. I've been seeing a new girl for 3 weeks. She knows I'm a couple months out of a crappy relationship where I put up with too much crap from my ex which caused me to constantly worry about her and how she felt about our relationship. After we starting having sex, we both agreed to be exclusive to see where it went. She's been very upfront, honest and has played no games. I've also told her I'm a guy that will disappear if I feel someone plays stupid games.
Author Notry412 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 She says we are exclusive, but it's things like this that make me feel unsure. When we had the talk she told me she needs a secure man, I said np cause I have never had a problem with that before. However between that and the fact that she does stuff like blow me off from time to time I have been feeling more insecure. I just can't tell if it's a test, and I need to confront and just let the chips land where they land. Problem is we work different shifts for a few days so talking to her on the phone might be out, I was thinking of texting her the question, but wasn't sure if that would be bad
aloneinaz Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 She says we are exclusive, but it's things like this that make me feel unsure. When we had the talk she told me she needs a secure man, I said np cause I have never had a problem with that before. However between that and the fact that she does stuff like blow me off from time to time I have been feeling more insecure. I just can't tell if it's a test, and I need to confront and just let the chips land where they land. Problem is we work different shifts for a few days so talking to her on the phone might be out, I was thinking of texting her the question, but wasn't sure if that would be bad Talk to her in person about this but be honest with yourself as well. She sounds more like a player after each of your texts. Now, you're saying she blows you off from time to time? Dude.. you should find someone else..
Author Notry412 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 Yea we just have great days usually spend a few nights together a week, but then the off nights she gets very distant, always needs to sleep all night after work. She will call me at night usually, but sometimes she just sleeps right through. She is always great when we are together, tells all her friends I am the best sex she has ever had and we are in our 30's. It's just crazy that it goes from so hot to cold.
crederer Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Well it's one of two things basically. She's playing games to try and make you jealous, or she's talking to someone she knows you wouldn't like her talking to. Either way, not good. I think it's the former though, because if she was talking to someone she thought you'd be upset about, she'd lie and say it was her mother or something. So.....you wanna be with a girl that plays games?
Author Notry412 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 (edited) Yea I thought the same thing that she would lie if it was truely someone I would be mad at. She always seems to test me, on Saturday she pushed all my buttons so I got mad and said some stuff, then all of a sudden she was more lovin then ever. I just wish I didn't really like her, I love the good times, but when we are apart it gets really weird. Sometimes I feel like she wants me to end it, but when I start down that road she gets really good again and I back down. Edited July 24, 2013 by Notry412 Typos
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