Romantic or a bit weird?

[tom_in_england]

Hi everyone,

 

Advice/thoughts would be great!

 

I have been seeing this girl I met online. Its not a boyfriend girlfriend relationship just yet, but I want to make it that way. Well, its her birthday next week and for one birthday present, I had this idea. I still have the first email I sent to her months ago and the first reply I received back. What I'm thinking of doing is printing the emails off and putting them in a little frame together and giving it to her. Its kind of a sentimental gift/way of showing her how I feel kind of gift.

 

What do you guys think? How would that come across? is it a good idea or a little bit weird/creepy!?

 

Thanks!

[Philosoraptor]

I dunno, if it's no an exclusive relationship that could come off a bit creepy if she's not ready to make it exclusive. But it's a pretty sentimential idea if you two had been together in a relationship for awhile.

[Arabella]

Yeah, I'm going to go with creepy.

 

These emails will not mean much to her yet if you haven't been officially together and dating for a while.

 

It would be absolutely adorable for a first-anniversary present though ... so keep it in mind

[tom_in_england]

Thank you guys... I think thats a pretty overwhelming opinion

 

I thought it would be a nice idea, but maybe I'm jumping the gun just a little!

[MidwestUSA]

A little creepy, no, a lot creepy. Here's a thought. Go ahead and print them out and file them away. If you end up with her, give them to her at the one year mark. I give you lotsa credit for creativity.

[jphcbpa]

great idea, but save it for a later gift

[Kizza]

yes ... a later gift when the relationship is established is a good idea.

[Phantom888]

As stated above, too early for such a romantic gift. Yes it's super romantic, and I'm sure she will appreciate it once you have establish deep love for one another. Save this one for sure!!!

 

If you are my age (38) and have a little cash to spoil your girl, this is what I did for my woman last weekend for her birthday: I cooked a romantic dinner for her friday night, then took her on a champagne cruise around the bay saturday night, and rented a nice hotel so we made love after the cruise. Sunday I took her to see a Broadway show, and then treated her to a couples massage....followed by dinner at the marina to watch the sunset by a pit fire. I went all out, because I plan to grow old with this woman.

[todreaminblue]

i must be a creep too because i find it romantic and sweet, it different and thoughtful.....but as another poster said a little early to pull out your thoughtfulness.........save it for sure........maybe buy her a beautiful card with a hand written message.....good luck......you r sweet....deb

[CarrieT]

It would be absolutely adorable for a first-anniversary present though ... so keep it in mind

I actually did this for our first anniversary; except I physically transcribed (in calligraphy) our correspondence into a book with my messages in one color and his in another.

 

It was very well received and we have both taken advantage of reading through the beginning of our relationship on a number of occasions.

[veggirl]

I think it's a cute and sweet idea, actually. Thoughtful but not over the top. A simple thing that has a lot of meaning.

[dasein]

Leaving aside the weird issue, print on a page is not something people usually frame and display due to simple aesthetics. In any event, would not give such a gift until an established exclusive relationship is in place. Would then lean way towards pictures over text. Good luck.

[CherryT]

A little creepy, no, a lot creepy. Here's a thought. Go ahead and print them out and file them away. If you end up with her, give them to her at the one year mark. I give you lotsa credit for creativity.

 

I agree with this... it's like someone printing and framing a picture you took a month ago. When you're in an established relationship and things are going great and it's been a substantial amount of time... doing something like this is more sweet. It's nice when your SO remembers small things. It's like you still remember the day you met and it's been years. But not before you're actually together.

[Forever Learning]

this is what I did for my woman last weekend for her birthday:

 

I cooked a romantic dinner for her friday night,

 

then took her on a champagne cruise around the bay saturday night, and

 

rented a nice hotel so we made love after the cruise.

 

Sunday I

 

took her to see a Broadway show,

 

and then treated her to a couples massage....

 

followed by dinner at the marina

 

to watch the sunset by a pit fire.

 

I went all out, because I plan to grow old with this woman.

 

Hells bells!! Forget the email printout, and do what this guy did!!! :bunny:

 

If it were me I'd f*ck your brains out for sure!!!! :laugh:

[spiderowl]

If you've been dating her for a while and are thinking of marrying her, it would be a lovely, romantic gift. If you are only seeing her but not romantic dating, it would seem creepy/clingy.

[ChessPieceFace]

Noooooooooooooo. Don't do it.

 

You're probably a well-meaning guy but that's seriously going to be seen as creepy. Women get creeped out by almost anything it seems and they will not be understanding about the reasons behind it.

 

Short list off the top of my head:

 

- Overthinking / putting lots of effort into a gift before you are BF/GF = creepy

- Doing something weird like printing out emails as a gift = creepy

- Dwelling on the "past" of a relationship that doesn't even exist yet = creepy

etc.

 

If you get any other bright ideas, better run it past other people first.

Edited July 25, 2013 by ChessPieceFace

[tom_in_england]

Thanks for the response everyone!

 

I thought it was a good idea but really I know that its too soon for something like that. I'll leave it for now, but as alot of you have said, I'll keep it "in the bank" for the future, fingers crossed there is one with her!